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 | submitted by NutPulp to ADMU [link] [comments] Curriculum taken from 2020 prospectus I passed both UST and ADMU Bio!!! I am checking their curriculums, and it seems that both of their curriculums are similar in terms of Major Courses. These Specialization Electives seem to be the dealbreaker for me and would help me a lot in deciding which university to go to if I understand its mechanics better. Basically, my questions are:
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2023.06.10 18:45 frostadept Bargaining Book 1, Chapter 13: Speculation
“No, I’m not a spirit either.”
“But you’re a kitsune, right? I thought kitsune were fox spirits.”
“What’s ‘kitsune?’ Is it Fae for Vulpus?”
“Oh, right, I guess that’s not English. Hm. Do you know what a ninja is?”
“Well, yes, it’s a stealth class, specializing in two-handed swords with archery support.”
Shock, curiosity, excitement. Belladonna’s twin began scribbling furiously on her note paper.
Belladonna and her sister were hovering in front of a huge desk on the ground floor of Rocket’s home, behind which sat Miss Cadmea, there to tutor the twins for the first time. Miss Cadmea had no idea where to start, so opted to begin with a basic questions and answers session with the twins. And Lia, as usual, was flustering her elders with a constant stream of confusing questions.
Belladonna was thoroughly amused by the exchange.
“So, now that we’ve established that therianthropes aren’t born from animals in any way- “
“Well, technically- “
”In ANY way,” the vixen emphasized as Belladonna burst into laughter at the interruption, “are there any other questions before we begin our discussion on magic?”
“I have questions!”
Cadmea sighed. “How many questions?”
“I dunno, we’re two days old,” Liandan replied with a shrug. “A lot?”
Belladonna nodded. Lia had her odd ideas, sure, but they both had come into the world with a baseline level of knowledge.
The woman shook her head. “Okay. I’m going to do my best to educate you two, but I’ll be honest, it’s going to take a lot of learning from both of us. It’s not normal for therianthropes and humans- “
“Animals.”
“Therianthropes and humans to know English, or much of anything for that matter, at two days old. So, we’re going to have to figure out what you don’t know, what I don’t know, and what we don’t know that we don’t know.”
Wait, don’t know what we don’t know? Ow! Just thinking about something that confusing hurt Belladonna’s brain. This must be what a headache was.
“I’m with sis on this one,” Lia interpreted. “What would we know that you don’t?”
Well, she wasn’t quite right, but close enough; it was better than trying to comprehend a loop of ’don’t know don’t know don’t knows. She offered a nod of confirmation to her twin.
“The three of us have the dubious honor of being some of the few people to have ever seen a greater god, let alone spoken with one,” Cadmea explained. “I’m sure we all have questions we can help each other with. For example, Liandan, Tetra told me to ask you to explain what a ‘multiversal supercluster’ was.”
Lia gave off a brief flash of confusion before a look of understanding fell across her face, accompanied by feelings of uncertainty and suspicion. “That’s… I have an idea, but I’m sure about it.”
“You do? So, what do you think it means then?”
Lia closed her eyes and crossed her arms, clearly deep in thought. “This is just guessing because of the name, but… hrm… could it have to do with other worlds? Is that a thing?”
“Maybe. I’ve heard the idea that the road not taken in one world is taken in another. Or at least it was, before Tetra mentioned that there are an infinite number of places that could use her help more than I could,” Cadmea said. “I used to think that was just wishful thinking some people used deal with regretting their decisions. Now I don’t know what to think.”
The grey fairy nodded. “That’s about what I figured. This is just me guessing, but a multiversal cluster like that could be something like worlds, universes, that all share a few key traits,” she explained. “Like the Earth and humans coming about, Fairies being born from flowers, the system going kaput, us meeting you, that kind of thing. That’s a bit specific, right?”
Belladonna took it back. This was WAY more confusing.
“We’re constantly making decisions,” Cadmea said. “That’s still countless worlds.”
“But still fewer than it could be. Maybe a supercluster is, like, including places don’t have much in common at all. Maybe just one thing? I couldn’t guess what though.”
Miss Cadmea flicked her ears, her tails swishing behind her. “I could. It’s all speculative, but it helps with trying to see the bigger picture. Still, thank you, Liandan. It’s pleasant having such an unexpectedly civilized conversation with you. It’s a surprisingly plausible idea for a fairy’s.”
A shared irritation flashed between the twins. What was that supposed to mean‽ “Gee, thanks,” Lia deadpanned at the backhanded compliment.
Belladonna frowned. “Jerk!”
…
Cadmea and Liandan turned to stare blankly at Belladonna, who could only sense shock and surprise from her counterpart. The elder twin started to feel nervous. Was that too far, or-
A wide grin crept up on Lia’s face as surprise fell beneath a sea of giddiness. “HeheheHA!” she giggled before tackling her sister in an airborne bear hug. “OHMYGOSH that was a word! Bella!” she laughed as she nuzzled Belladonna’s cheek.
Belladonna for her part was surprised by the reaction. Lia had always known how to talk. She was a prodigy that even the king was surprised by. Belladonna could never hope to measure up.
So why? Why would one word make her so happy?
Liandan pointed at Cadmea. “Jerk!” she parroted, radiating happiness and enthusiasm as she looked to Belladonna. “Jerk! C’mon, sis!”
Belladonna blinked. She didn’t know what to think.
But then, wasn’t that what being with Lia was always like?
So she may as well go with it! Belladonna pointed at their tutor. “Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
Cadmea stared at the two fairies making fun of her. She sighed once more. “Now this? This is more like what I expected a conversation with fairy children would be like,” she groused, unheeded by the laughing twins.
“Jerk! Jerk! Jerk! Jerk!”
A chuckle escaped the vixen’s lips. She cracked a smile. “I suppose I had this coming, huh? Alright, alright, I’m sorry,” she apologized. Liandan stopped chanting at her, and so Belladonna followed suit. “Tell you what, we’ll skip the Q&A. Tell me what kind of magic you want to learn.
“Now I’m not a specialist in anything but ritualism, and there’s no guaranty you’ll have a knack for what you want. However, I had to learn a bit about everything to practice it. I should be able to give you kit’s first magic lesson on any of them.”
The fairies looked at each other. Lia shrugged. “Heck if I know. I kind of just want to learn. Like, in general,” she said. “Bella?”
Belladonna thought about it. Liandan had seemed really interested in poison to her, so she wasn’t sure why she wouldn’t jump at the chance to learn poison magic, if that was even a thing. But Belladonna wasn’t really that interested in it. Being bad to eat was nice and all, but she only valued it insofar as it was a deterrent to help them survive. It was cold comfort to take your attacker with you; you still died.
No, what interested her was the opposite. She pulled out her pencil and paper, wrote down two words, and showed them to Lia to read aloud.
“It says ‘Healing magic.’”
Cadmea looked at the purple fairy. “Healing, huh? That’s a tricky one to explain without the system. Do you know what HP is?”
Belladonna shook her head. She sensed a curious shiver run down Lia’s spine.
“It’s a measure of one’s vitality given by the system in a numerical value. Full HP meant you were totally uninjured, and if you HP hit 0, you died. Healing magic would restore HP and heal the body in the process.”
“Question!” Liandan asked, hand raised high. Cadmea gave her a confused look, and Lia sheepishly lowered her hand. Embarrassed, she asked “Heh, sorry. Is it that it would restore HP to heal the body, or heal the body to restore HP?”
“A good question,” Cadmea replied. “Until very recently, they were considered mutually inclusive, so the question itself was like asking which came first, magic or the system? But I can tell you firsthand that healing talismans still function properly, so I’d say it’s safe to say that the magic restored the body first, and the HP seamlessly updated to reflect that.”
“But then why would- sorry, that’s off topic, never mind,” Lia said. “Please continue.”
“Yes, as I was saying, general healing magic restores the body to proper working order,” the fox woman continued. “There are several different mechanisms by which this can be achieved. With a natural base, the body can grow anew, regenerating tissues or reattaching limbs. I’ve never heard of anyone unlocking it, but there were mentions in the system of fully regrowing missing limbs or organs.
“A more advanced version is healing with a temporal base. With that, healing magic can speed up the healing of the wound by hours, days, even months in the span of seconds, or it can even reverse injuries that were sustained a short time ago. “
She reached into her pouch, pulling a piece of vellum out. “This is a healing talisman using a natural base. It restores about- ah, moderately heals wounds, and apply a mild painkilling effect.”
“How does it do that?” Lia asked.
“Well, this is a miniaturized array that channels- “
“No, no, I don’t mean that,” Lia interrupted. “It’s fascinating, and I’m going to want to learn all about it too, but I mean the underlying principle behind the natural base healing magic. Does it use cellular regeneration?”
“I don’t follow,” Cadmea said. “What do you mean by that?”
“Well, if you don’t know either…” Liandan never finished the sentence.
It wasn’t surprising to Belladonna that her tutor didn’t know either. If you could heal people anyway, why would you need to know how it worked? Of course, the answer was obvious: because maybe it could let you heal them even better!
“Can I ask for some supplies? It’ll help me explain, I promise!”
“Supplies? What kind of supplies?”
“Well, I’m not sure how much of this we have around the village,” Liandan admitted, “but… dish soap, lye if you don’t have it-”
“We have it.”
“I didn’t mean-!” Liandan groaned. “No. L-Y-E. Also salt, isopropyl alcohol, and a glass cup.”
Cadmea raised an eyebrow. “I know spirits are born with certain knowledge, but that seems oddly specific,” she remarked. “I’ll ask your king if he can provide those for us. Anything else?”
“Oh, yes! Some small, flat glass sheets. Say, seventy-five by twenty-five by one millimeter? A playing card, something to punch a hole in it, a needle, petro-, no, some beeswax, tin foil, and Glue.”
Belladonna tilted her head. Where was her sister up to this time?
“Again, oddly specific,” Cadmea noted. “I’m starting to get the picture here. You two aren’t exactly normal, are you?”
The violet fairy shook her head at that. “Mo.”
Drat. So close.
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“But you’re a kitsune, right? I thought kitsune were fox spirits.”
“What’s ‘kitsune?’ Is it Fae for Vulpus?”
“Oh, right, I guess that’s not English. Hm. Do you know what a ninja is?”
“Well, yes, it’s a stealth class, specializing in two-handed swords with archery support.”
Shock, curiosity, excitement. Belladonna’s twin began scribbling furiously on her note paper.
Belladonna and her sister were hovering in front of a huge desk on the ground floor of Rocket’s home, behind which sat Miss Cadmea, there to tutor the twins for the first time. Miss Cadmea had no idea where to start, so opted to begin with a basic questions and answers session with the twins. And Lia, as usual, was flustering her elders with a constant stream of confusing questions.
Belladonna was thoroughly amused by the exchange.
“So, now that we’ve established that therianthropes aren’t born from animals in any way- “
“Well, technically- “
”In ANY way,” the vixen emphasized as Belladonna burst into laughter at the interruption, “are there any other questions before we begin our discussion on magic?”
“I have questions!”
Cadmea sighed. “How many questions?”
“I dunno, we’re two days old,” Liandan replied with a shrug. “A lot?”
Belladonna nodded. Lia had her odd ideas, sure, but they both had come into the world with a baseline level of knowledge.
The woman shook her head. “Okay. I’m going to do my best to educate you two, but I’ll be honest, it’s going to take a lot of learning from both of us. It’s not normal for therianthropes and humans- “
“Animals.”
“Therianthropes and humans to know English, or much of anything for that matter, at two days old. So, we’re going to have to figure out what you don’t know, what I don’t know, and what we don’t know that we don’t know.”
Wait, don’t know what we don’t know? Ow! Just thinking about something that confusing hurt Belladonna’s brain. This must be what a headache was.
“I’m with sis on this one,” Lia interpreted. “What would we know that you don’t?”
Well, she wasn’t quite right, but close enough; it was better than trying to comprehend a loop of ’don’t know don’t know don’t knows. She offered a nod of confirmation to her twin.
“The three of us have the dubious honor of being some of the few people to have ever seen a greater god, let alone spoken with one,” Cadmea explained. “I’m sure we all have questions we can help each other with. For example, Liandan, Tetra told me to ask you to explain what a ‘multiversal supercluster’ was.”
Lia gave off a brief flash of confusion before a look of understanding fell across her face, accompanied by feelings of uncertainty and suspicion. “That’s… I have an idea, but I’m sure about it.”
“You do? So, what do you think it means then?”
Lia closed her eyes and crossed her arms, clearly deep in thought. “This is just guessing because of the name, but… hrm… could it have to do with other worlds? Is that a thing?”
“Maybe. I’ve heard the idea that the road not taken in one world is taken in another. Or at least it was, before Tetra mentioned that there are an infinite number of places that could use her help more than I could,” Cadmea said. “I used to think that was just wishful thinking some people used deal with regretting their decisions. Now I don’t know what to think.”
The grey fairy nodded. “That’s about what I figured. This is just me guessing, but a multiversal cluster like that could be something like worlds, universes, that all share a few key traits,” she explained. “Like the Earth and humans coming about, Fairies being born from flowers, the system going kaput, us meeting you, that kind of thing. That’s a bit specific, right?”
Belladonna took it back. This was WAY more confusing.
“We’re constantly making decisions,” Cadmea said. “That’s still countless worlds.”
“But still fewer than it could be. Maybe a supercluster is, like, including places don’t have much in common at all. Maybe just one thing? I couldn’t guess what though.”
Miss Cadmea flicked her ears, her tails swishing behind her. “I could. It’s all speculative, but it helps with trying to see the bigger picture. Still, thank you, Liandan. It’s pleasant having such an unexpectedly civilized conversation with you. It’s a surprisingly plausible idea for a fairy’s.”
A shared irritation flashed between the twins. What was that supposed to mean‽ “Gee, thanks,” Lia deadpanned at the backhanded compliment.
Belladonna frowned. “Jerk!”
…
Cadmea and Liandan turned to stare blankly at Belladonna, who could only sense shock and surprise from her counterpart. The elder twin started to feel nervous. Was that too far, or-
A wide grin crept up on Lia’s face as surprise fell beneath a sea of giddiness. “HeheheHA!” she giggled before tackling her sister in an airborne bear hug. “OHMYGOSH that was a word! Bella!” she laughed as she nuzzled Belladonna’s cheek.
Belladonna for her part was surprised by the reaction. Lia had always known how to talk. She was a prodigy that even the king was surprised by. Belladonna could never hope to measure up.
So why? Why would one word make her so happy?
Liandan pointed at Cadmea. “Jerk!” she parroted, radiating happiness and enthusiasm as she looked to Belladonna. “Jerk! C’mon, sis!”
Belladonna blinked. She didn’t know what to think.
But then, wasn’t that what being with Lia was always like?
So she may as well go with it! Belladonna pointed at their tutor. “Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
“Jerk!”
Cadmea stared at the two fairies making fun of her. She sighed once more. “Now this? This is more like what I expected a conversation with fairy children would be like,” she groused, unheeded by the laughing twins.
“Jerk! Jerk! Jerk! Jerk!”
A chuckle escaped the vixen’s lips. She cracked a smile. “I suppose I had this coming, huh? Alright, alright, I’m sorry,” she apologized. Liandan stopped chanting at her, and so Belladonna followed suit. “Tell you what, we’ll skip the Q&A. Tell me what kind of magic you want to learn.
“Now I’m not a specialist in anything but ritualism, and there’s no guaranty you’ll have a knack for what you want. However, I had to learn a bit about everything to practice it. I should be able to give you kit’s first magic lesson on any of them.”
The fairies looked at each other. Lia shrugged. “Heck if I know. I kind of just want to learn. Like, in general,” she said. “Bella?”
Belladonna thought about it. Liandan had seemed really interested in poison to her, so she wasn’t sure why she wouldn’t jump at the chance to learn poison magic, if that was even a thing. But Belladonna wasn’t really that interested in it. Being bad to eat was nice and all, but she only valued it insofar as it was a deterrent to help them survive. It was cold comfort to take your attacker with you; you still died.
No, what interested her was the opposite. She pulled out her pencil and paper, wrote down two words, and showed them to Lia to read aloud.
“It says ‘Healing magic.’”
Cadmea looked at the purple fairy. “Healing, huh? That’s a tricky one to explain without the system. Do you know what HP is?”
Belladonna shook her head. She sensed a curious shiver run down Lia’s spine.
“It’s a measure of one’s vitality given by the system in a numerical value. Full HP meant you were totally uninjured, and if you HP hit 0, you died. Healing magic would restore HP and heal the body in the process.”
“Question!” Liandan asked, hand raised high. Cadmea gave her a confused look, and Lia sheepishly lowered her hand. Embarrassed, she asked “Heh, sorry. Is it that it would restore HP to heal the body, or heal the body to restore HP?”
“A good question,” Cadmea replied. “Until very recently, they were considered mutually inclusive, so the question itself was like asking which came first, magic or the system? But I can tell you firsthand that healing talismans still function properly, so I’d say it’s safe to say that the magic restored the body first, and the HP seamlessly updated to reflect that.”
“But then why would- sorry, that’s off topic, never mind,” Lia said. “Please continue.”
“Yes, as I was saying, general healing magic restores the body to proper working order,” the fox woman continued. “There are several different mechanisms by which this can be achieved. With a natural base, the body can grow anew, regenerating tissues or reattaching limbs. I’ve never heard of anyone unlocking it, but there were mentions in the system of fully regrowing missing limbs or organs.
“A more advanced version is healing with a temporal base. With that, healing magic can speed up the healing of the wound by hours, days, even months in the span of seconds, or it can even reverse injuries that were sustained a short time ago. “
She reached into her pouch, pulling a piece of vellum out. “This is a healing talisman using a natural base. It restores about- ah, moderately heals wounds, and apply a mild painkilling effect.”
“How does it do that?” Lia asked.
“Well, this is a miniaturized array that channels- “
“No, no, I don’t mean that,” Lia interrupted. “It’s fascinating, and I’m going to want to learn all about it too, but I mean the underlying principle behind the natural base healing magic. Does it use cellular regeneration?”
“I don’t follow,” Cadmea said. “What do you mean by that?”
“Well, if you don’t know either…” Liandan never finished the sentence.
It wasn’t surprising to Belladonna that her tutor didn’t know either. If you could heal people anyway, why would you need to know how it worked? Of course, the answer was obvious: because maybe it could let you heal them even better!
“Can I ask for some supplies? It’ll help me explain, I promise!”
“Supplies? What kind of supplies?”
“Well, I’m not sure how much of this we have around the village,” Liandan admitted, “but… dish soap, lye if you don’t have it-”
“We have it.”
“I didn’t mean-!” Liandan groaned. “No. L-Y-E. Also salt, isopropyl alcohol, and a glass cup.”
Cadmea raised an eyebrow. “I know spirits are born with certain knowledge, but that seems oddly specific,” she remarked. “I’ll ask your king if he can provide those for us. Anything else?”
“Oh, yes! Some small, flat glass sheets. Say, seventy-five by twenty-five by one millimeter? A playing card, something to punch a hole in it, a needle, petro-, no, some beeswax, tin foil, and Glue.”
Belladonna tilted her head. Where was her sister up to this time?
“Again, oddly specific,” Cadmea noted. “I’m starting to get the picture here. You two aren’t exactly normal, are you?”
The violet fairy shook her head at that. “Mo.”
Drat. So close.
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2023.06.10 18:42 somespeculation Harry and Meg’s Montecito Home: Chateau of Riven Rock - financial details, real estate prices and the home’s history. In my opinion, it's not a good investment. Fact checked.
Their home, the Olive Garden Purgatory for Displaced Overseas Royals, was purchased for $14.65mil in an off market sale in June 2020, mortgaged.
LA Times Confirmation: https://archive.ph/QgYkz
All of this is from a 'source close to the couple'. The final paragraph is clout listing nearby celebrity homes; final paragraph connecting the house to Oprah's neighbour.
HISTORY - Unsettling
Check out it’s true, unsettling history about a mentally ill man who was confined there for decades: https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-172407/https://www.hellomagazine.com/homes/2020081895556/prince-harry-meghan-markle-house-riven-rock-estate-history/
OFFICIAL DETAILS ON SUSSEX PURCHASE
Formal name is “Chateau of Riven Rock.” https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-170042/https://nypost.com/article/inside-prince-harry-meghan-markle-house-montecito/
Address: 765 Rockbridge Rd
Value: $14.65mil in Aug 2021, mortgaged.
Originally attempted to sell for $49.4mil in 2015:
https://archive.ph/2023.03.17-154553/http://www.extravaganzi.com/2015/05/03/the-chateau-of-riven-rock-montecito-on-sale-for-495-million/
Then reduced to $35 mil.
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/shut-the-front-door--54606214208991974/
And promoted in the LA Times in 2015 again for $35mil.
https://archive.ph/2020.08.16-045136/https://www.latimes.com/business/realestate/hot-property/la-fi-hotprop-montecito-chateau-20150612-story.html
Then reduced again for $22.9 mil.
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/520306563183572045/
By Oct 2020, listed on Giggster for rentals at $700/hr.
https://archive.is/2021.12.12-055410/https://www.montecitojournal.net/2020/10/29/harry-and-meghans-riven-rock-estate-on-giggste
Purchased from Russian oligarch, Sergey Grishin, who clearly took a multi million dollar loss in selling the property.
https://archive.ph/2022.03.06-220608/https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8625319/How-Prince-Harry-Meghan-Markle-snapped-14-7m-dream-home-monster-Russian-tycoon.html
Appears to be owned by Rockbridge LLC, under Grishin.
Rockbridge LLC also took out two federal covid loans for under $50,000 in 2021 that appear to have been paid off in full or “forgiven.”
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-180558/https://www.federalpay.org/paycheck-protection-program/rockbridge-llc-santa-barbara
The address for Rockbridge LLC is the same as the Wells Fargo in Montecito: 1482 E Valley Rd. Could theoretically have a box there.
Thie Rockbridge LLC shows up a bit with the financial deep dive, but appears to be a bit of a red herring as it only correlates to public record availability pre-Harry and Meg's purchase.
Grishin has since died.
Additional property records for previous owners and their LLCs:
https://homemetry.com/house/765+ROCKBRIDGE+RD,+Santa+Barbara+CA https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-180043/http://www.city-data.com/santa-barbara-county/Rockbridge-Road-1.html
So who actually owns it?
Update: Excellent work by a fellow sinner determined it was purchased via Real Residential Estate Trust whose address is identical to Meg’s business manager at the time in Bev Hills.
It can also be searched for on this sub under, "Who Really Owns the Montecito Olive Garden".
https://archive.ph/pnYEU
What they’ve said about it:
https://archive.ph/8HtsV
As recently as Aug 2022, even sympathetic Marie Claire mag is citing a 'source' that they are eager to sell and move. This article reads like a PR real estate advertisement for the home.
https://archive.ph/vjNJt
TAXATION DETAILS
Tax assessment for 2021 - 2022 is $141,000 roughly. Taxed at a rate of 1.04%….which seems to be more of a business tax rate….ownership intentionally omitted/redacted.
Current value of the home assessed at just under: $13.3 mil.
The 2021-2022 tax records for their address:
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-175254/https://mytaxes.sbtaxes.org/WebPages/ReportHandler.aspx?ReportRequest=bill/PROD/SEC/202100002021100936611
Interestingly, they are listed as a Prop 13/AB8 which is why their initial taxes were soooo low at 1.04%. This means their property taxes are reevaluated with the current market value of their property as measured by the sale price for change of ownership.
https://taxes.co.santa-barbara.ca.us/propertytax/taxrates.asp?FiscalYear=2022&TRA=061008
https://www.sccassessor.org/faq/understanding-proposition-13
Here’s the really deep dives for fiscally interested sinners:
https://www.edcgov.us/Government/Auditor-ControllePropTax/pages/distribution_of_proposition_13_s_1__general_property_tax.aspx
https://content.civicplus.com/api/assets/43f8a34b-36ec-4959-8a9b-3f1bf4bfec17
IF/WHEN THEY SELL, OTHER NEARBY PROPERTIES FOR COMPARISON
Value: For sale in March 2021 for $22.5 mil.
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-165225/https://nypost.com/2021/03/08/montecito-home-next-to-prince-harry-meghan-markle-on-sale-for-29m/
45 days on the market, then an offer, then a press release stating that they are still open to other offers. This usually indicates it was a low ball offer significantly below the asking price.
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/757027018614924479/
Address: 888 Lilac Drive
Value: Listed Dec 2022 for $33.5 mil.
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-173046/https://robbreport.com/sheltehomes-for-sale/harry-and-meghan-documentary-compound-lists-1234787523/
This was where they filmed Netflix. It was filmed in another Montecito home they passed off indirectly as theirs, as they never clarified it was not their home during filming their 'behind the scenes'. Harry was likely paranoid about a security risk, whereas Meg likely saw an opportunity for implied flexing. She knows the Olive Garden beige property is dated. Filmed in a home valued over twice as much as theirs.
As of March 2023, still on the market at its original price.
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-173844/https://www.mansionglobal.com/articles/inside-the-montecito-villa-where-harry-and-meghan-filmed-their-documentary-25a05f99
Value: Sold for $14.5mil in Apr 2022.
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-171250/https://www.redfin.com/CA/Santa-Barbara/830-Riven-Rock-Rd-93108/home/21608407.
IN SUM:
No confirmation on if one, both, or neither are living there. However, there are multiple reports swirling that Harry (or Meg) may regularly retreat to a room at San Ysidro Ranch. This includes the thank you card recently publicized for the bike Archie was recently gifted for his birthday, but interestingly publicized a month later, sent from an employee of SYR. Google maps puts it at a. 7 min drive from their address.
Also keep in mind any RivenRock allusions in online accounts, donations, or LLCs....perhaps could be illuminating for who is behind them.
So there you have it. Make of it what you will.
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LA Times Confirmation: https://archive.ph/QgYkz
All of this is from a 'source close to the couple'. The final paragraph is clout listing nearby celebrity homes; final paragraph connecting the house to Oprah's neighbour.
HISTORY - Unsettling
Check out it’s true, unsettling history about a mentally ill man who was confined there for decades: https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-172407/https://www.hellomagazine.com/homes/2020081895556/prince-harry-meghan-markle-house-riven-rock-estate-history/
OFFICIAL DETAILS ON SUSSEX PURCHASE
Formal name is “Chateau of Riven Rock.” https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-170042/https://nypost.com/article/inside-prince-harry-meghan-markle-house-montecito/
Address: 765 Rockbridge Rd
Value: $14.65mil in Aug 2021, mortgaged.
Originally attempted to sell for $49.4mil in 2015:
https://archive.ph/2023.03.17-154553/http://www.extravaganzi.com/2015/05/03/the-chateau-of-riven-rock-montecito-on-sale-for-495-million/
Then reduced to $35 mil.
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/shut-the-front-door--54606214208991974/
And promoted in the LA Times in 2015 again for $35mil.
https://archive.ph/2020.08.16-045136/https://www.latimes.com/business/realestate/hot-property/la-fi-hotprop-montecito-chateau-20150612-story.html
Then reduced again for $22.9 mil.
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/520306563183572045/
By Oct 2020, listed on Giggster for rentals at $700/hr.
https://archive.is/2021.12.12-055410/https://www.montecitojournal.net/2020/10/29/harry-and-meghans-riven-rock-estate-on-giggste
Purchased from Russian oligarch, Sergey Grishin, who clearly took a multi million dollar loss in selling the property.
https://archive.ph/2022.03.06-220608/https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8625319/How-Prince-Harry-Meghan-Markle-snapped-14-7m-dream-home-monster-Russian-tycoon.html
Appears to be owned by Rockbridge LLC, under Grishin.
Rockbridge LLC also took out two federal covid loans for under $50,000 in 2021 that appear to have been paid off in full or “forgiven.”
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-180558/https://www.federalpay.org/paycheck-protection-program/rockbridge-llc-santa-barbara
The address for Rockbridge LLC is the same as the Wells Fargo in Montecito: 1482 E Valley Rd. Could theoretically have a box there.
Thie Rockbridge LLC shows up a bit with the financial deep dive, but appears to be a bit of a red herring as it only correlates to public record availability pre-Harry and Meg's purchase.
Grishin has since died.
Additional property records for previous owners and their LLCs:
https://homemetry.com/house/765+ROCKBRIDGE+RD,+Santa+Barbara+CA https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-180043/http://www.city-data.com/santa-barbara-county/Rockbridge-Road-1.html
So who actually owns it?
Update: Excellent work by a fellow sinner determined it was purchased via Real Residential Estate Trust whose address is identical to Meg’s business manager at the time in Bev Hills.
It can also be searched for on this sub under, "Who Really Owns the Montecito Olive Garden".
https://archive.ph/pnYEU
What they’ve said about it:
- there is a "stomach churning smell" from a nearby bird sanctuary
- may not be able to insure and/or insurance is huge due to it being in mudslide zone
- they are not “over the moon” about it. EAGER TO SELL AND MOVE ELSEWHERE
https://archive.ph/8HtsV
As recently as Aug 2022, even sympathetic Marie Claire mag is citing a 'source' that they are eager to sell and move. This article reads like a PR real estate advertisement for the home.
https://archive.ph/vjNJt
TAXATION DETAILS
Tax assessment for 2021 - 2022 is $141,000 roughly. Taxed at a rate of 1.04%….which seems to be more of a business tax rate….ownership intentionally omitted/redacted.
Current value of the home assessed at just under: $13.3 mil.
The 2021-2022 tax records for their address:
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-175254/https://mytaxes.sbtaxes.org/WebPages/ReportHandler.aspx?ReportRequest=bill/PROD/SEC/202100002021100936611
Interestingly, they are listed as a Prop 13/AB8 which is why their initial taxes were soooo low at 1.04%. This means their property taxes are reevaluated with the current market value of their property as measured by the sale price for change of ownership.
https://taxes.co.santa-barbara.ca.us/propertytax/taxrates.asp?FiscalYear=2022&TRA=061008
https://www.sccassessor.org/faq/understanding-proposition-13
Here’s the really deep dives for fiscally interested sinners:
https://www.edcgov.us/Government/Auditor-ControllePropTax/pages/distribution_of_proposition_13_s_1__general_property_tax.aspx
https://content.civicplus.com/api/assets/43f8a34b-36ec-4959-8a9b-3f1bf4bfec17
IF/WHEN THEY SELL, OTHER NEARBY PROPERTIES FOR COMPARISON
- Neighbour’s home:
Value: For sale in March 2021 for $22.5 mil.
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-165225/https://nypost.com/2021/03/08/montecito-home-next-to-prince-harry-meghan-markle-on-sale-for-29m/
45 days on the market, then an offer, then a press release stating that they are still open to other offers. This usually indicates it was a low ball offer significantly below the asking price.
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/757027018614924479/
- Netflix Montecito filming home:
Address: 888 Lilac Drive
Value: Listed Dec 2022 for $33.5 mil.
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-173046/https://robbreport.com/sheltehomes-for-sale/harry-and-meghan-documentary-compound-lists-1234787523/
This was where they filmed Netflix. It was filmed in another Montecito home they passed off indirectly as theirs, as they never clarified it was not their home during filming their 'behind the scenes'. Harry was likely paranoid about a security risk, whereas Meg likely saw an opportunity for implied flexing. She knows the Olive Garden beige property is dated. Filmed in a home valued over twice as much as theirs.
As of March 2023, still on the market at its original price.
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-173844/https://www.mansionglobal.com/articles/inside-the-montecito-villa-where-harry-and-meghan-filmed-their-documentary-25a05f99
- Neighbour’s home #3
Value: Sold for $14.5mil in Apr 2022.
https://archive.ph/2023.06.04-171250/https://www.redfin.com/CA/Santa-Barbara/830-Riven-Rock-Rd-93108/home/21608407.
IN SUM:
- they do own it, via a speculated Meg-created LLC, mortgaged
- they bought it heavily discounted, after multiple markdowns and even rentals
- there are major problems, that they themselves at times continued to publicize
- they are avoiding filming there (Spare interviews at San Ysidro, Oprah interview, Netflix) outside of the 40x40 ball juggling Harry while Meg reigns from her Bench of beige throne.
- their property tax rate is VERY low
No confirmation on if one, both, or neither are living there. However, there are multiple reports swirling that Harry (or Meg) may regularly retreat to a room at San Ysidro Ranch. This includes the thank you card recently publicized for the bike Archie was recently gifted for his birthday, but interestingly publicized a month later, sent from an employee of SYR. Google maps puts it at a. 7 min drive from their address.
Also keep in mind any RivenRock allusions in online accounts, donations, or LLCs....perhaps could be illuminating for who is behind them.
So there you have it. Make of it what you will.
2023.06.10 18:35 NoGuess4010 I don't know how to improve my social skills
This is bit of venting I(28F) have been wanting to do since a long time. I recently moved to different city for a job and living with roomates. One of my roommates was in a same city and we moved together. Both of us work at same place and so have common social circle. But what I have observed in past few months is how easily she got connected with guys in the group compared to me who introduced her to those guys. I am still struggling to bond with everyone in the group while I see here chating with them whole day. She and other roomate have good friend circle of girls too that I have been longing since finishing high school.
I had two very good girl friends during my school years but have been struggling to make similar bond with other girls ever since I started university. While I wasn't able to befriend any girl during university years and thought I would do it during my job. While I was surrounded with girls and used to have lunch with them regularly I still felt excluded from that group at work. They all knew each other and were very good friends but I was never able to bond with any of them at the same level during my two years at the company. Though I became very good friends with two guys in my team but I always wanted girl friends too and constantly envied girls in the office who were very good friends with each other.
Then I moved to different country for higher education and again the same story repeats. I managed to become friends with a girl but she always prioritised her male friends over me so I stopped interacting with her after a certain point. By the way same thing happened with girls I tried to bond with during my undergraduate university years too. So back to present and again I have plenty of guy friends but something just feels incomplete without having a girl friend.
And now in my current job I thought I finally found that girl friend she got closer to those guys and prioritises them too and I am the one left alone on the side. End of my story.
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I had two very good girl friends during my school years but have been struggling to make similar bond with other girls ever since I started university. While I wasn't able to befriend any girl during university years and thought I would do it during my job. While I was surrounded with girls and used to have lunch with them regularly I still felt excluded from that group at work. They all knew each other and were very good friends but I was never able to bond with any of them at the same level during my two years at the company. Though I became very good friends with two guys in my team but I always wanted girl friends too and constantly envied girls in the office who were very good friends with each other.
Then I moved to different country for higher education and again the same story repeats. I managed to become friends with a girl but she always prioritised her male friends over me so I stopped interacting with her after a certain point. By the way same thing happened with girls I tried to bond with during my undergraduate university years too. So back to present and again I have plenty of guy friends but something just feels incomplete without having a girl friend.
And now in my current job I thought I finally found that girl friend she got closer to those guys and prioritises them too and I am the one left alone on the side. End of my story.
2023.06.10 18:31 zaddykinz Step-dad making my life really difficult
Asalamalaikum everyone,
For context my mother remarried when I (24F) was under 1 years old, and since then I have lived with her, my step-father and younger sister.
Growing up my step-fathers family never really accepted me and taunted me for not being blood-related to them, and my biological father never really reached out so I was left alone/isolated/bullied. My step-father tried to make his parents and siblings understand that it was his own choice to marry a divorcee who has a child but it never worked and I was left to deal with a lot of abuse. I have also blindly listened to everything my step-father has asked of me, and completed every obligation and duty a daughter would (to the best of my ability), because in a sense I owe him for providing for me even though he is not my biological father. And being the eldest daughter I naturally had a lot more pressure and expectations than my younger sister.
Fast forward to now, I have found a good man I like and would like to be married to, and I told my step dad when I was pretty certain I like this man (after completing isthikara). My step dad was instantly put off (he is extremelyyyyyyy materialistic) because the guy does not do a white collar job like myself, and instead does a labour job, still lives with his mother (willingly as she is old and alone), and does not have his own home. I judged this man based on his deen, characteristics and of course appearance too and I am pleased with them all. But my step father is strongly against me being married to this guy because he doesn’t live in a major city, he isn’t from the same city back home but rather a village, and he does not have a university degree but rather a college diploma - and in my step fathers eyes this is equivalent to nothing.
After convincing my step father with tears, and lots of logic, he eventually agreed. We are now engaged, and due to have the nikkah soon.
But everyday several times a day I get taunted by him how he only agreed because of me, how the guy is poor and would ruin my life, how my step-father raised me well and got my educated so I could marry someone on my level, how he does not have a proper car or home of his own and I would have to use my own money to provide for him. My step father also never prays and has not judged the man or his family based on Islamic requirements AT ALL.
Also, my biological brother (lives away) who’s met and interrogated the guy has approved of him and said he has all the qualities that a husband should have.
How should I go about this situation? I feel stuck between my step father and this man, because of my respect towards my step father I feel like I owe him a lot. Any advice would help?
Jzk.
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For context my mother remarried when I (24F) was under 1 years old, and since then I have lived with her, my step-father and younger sister.
Growing up my step-fathers family never really accepted me and taunted me for not being blood-related to them, and my biological father never really reached out so I was left alone/isolated/bullied. My step-father tried to make his parents and siblings understand that it was his own choice to marry a divorcee who has a child but it never worked and I was left to deal with a lot of abuse. I have also blindly listened to everything my step-father has asked of me, and completed every obligation and duty a daughter would (to the best of my ability), because in a sense I owe him for providing for me even though he is not my biological father. And being the eldest daughter I naturally had a lot more pressure and expectations than my younger sister.
Fast forward to now, I have found a good man I like and would like to be married to, and I told my step dad when I was pretty certain I like this man (after completing isthikara). My step dad was instantly put off (he is extremelyyyyyyy materialistic) because the guy does not do a white collar job like myself, and instead does a labour job, still lives with his mother (willingly as she is old and alone), and does not have his own home. I judged this man based on his deen, characteristics and of course appearance too and I am pleased with them all. But my step father is strongly against me being married to this guy because he doesn’t live in a major city, he isn’t from the same city back home but rather a village, and he does not have a university degree but rather a college diploma - and in my step fathers eyes this is equivalent to nothing.
After convincing my step father with tears, and lots of logic, he eventually agreed. We are now engaged, and due to have the nikkah soon.
But everyday several times a day I get taunted by him how he only agreed because of me, how the guy is poor and would ruin my life, how my step-father raised me well and got my educated so I could marry someone on my level, how he does not have a proper car or home of his own and I would have to use my own money to provide for him. My step father also never prays and has not judged the man or his family based on Islamic requirements AT ALL.
Also, my biological brother (lives away) who’s met and interrogated the guy has approved of him and said he has all the qualities that a husband should have.
How should I go about this situation? I feel stuck between my step father and this man, because of my respect towards my step father I feel like I owe him a lot. Any advice would help?
Jzk.
2023.06.10 18:31 Vertillan Until a public event comes to ruin your good fishing run
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2023.06.10 18:30 smbrynien Complete List of Gluten Free Places to Eat in Philly
My partner has celiac and we have lived in Philly for a long time and eaten at many places in Philly and the surrounding suburbs, so I thought I would post my list of all the places she is able to eat at safely and that we like. Feel free to add any suggestions or places you have been to in order to help grow this list.
Obviously everyone has a different level of sensitivity to gluten, I cannot speak for cross-contamination at these places. If that is a concern to you, please call ahead to verify.
Some personal favorites of ours:
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Obviously everyone has a different level of sensitivity to gluten, I cannot speak for cross-contamination at these places. If that is a concern to you, please call ahead to verify.
| Restaurant | Cuisine | Location |
|---|---|---|
| Schmear It | Bagels | Center City/University City |
| Batter & Crumbs | Bakery | Passyunk |
| Flakely | Bakery | Manayunk |
| Happy Mixer | Bakery | Chalfont/Langhorne |
| High Fidelity | Bakery | South Philly |
| Taffets | Bakery | Italian Market |
| P.S. & Co. | Bakery/Cafe | Rittenhouse |
| Sweet Lucy's Smokehouse | BBQ | Northeast Philly |
| Winkel | Brunch | Washington Square West |
| P'unk Burger | Burgers | South Philly |
| Front Street | Cafe | Fishtown |
| Gilda | Cafe | Fishtown |
| EMei | Chinese | Chinatown |
| Unit Su Vege | Chinese Vegetarian | Fairmount |
| Fox & Son Fair Foods | Corn Dogs/Funnel Cake/etc. | Redding Terminal |
| T-Swirl Crepe | Crepes | Chinatown |
| Okie Dokie Donuts | Donuts | South Philly |
| Doro Bet | Ethiopian | University City |
| Lovebird | Fried Chicken Sandwiches | Various (suburbs) |
| El Merkury | Guatemalan | Rittenhouse |
| Real Food Eatery | Health Food | Rittenhouse |
| Veda | Indian | Rittenhouse |
| Cry Baby Pasta | Italian | Queen Village |
| Giorgio on Pine | Italian | Washington Square West |
| Panorama | Italian | Old City |
| Prunella | Italian | Center City |
| Double Knot | Japanese | Center City |
| Jomon | Japanese BBQ | Center City |
| Moonbowls | Korean Bowls | Girard |
| Bar Bombon | Latin American | Rittenhouse |
| Mission Taqueria | Mexican | Rittenhouse |
| &Pizza | Pizza | Rittenhouse/University City |
| Couch Tomato | Pizza | Manayunk |
| D'Oliva | Pizza | Northern Liberties |
| Emmy Squared | Pizza | Queen Village |
| Jules Thin Crust | Pizza | Various (suburbs) |
| Slice | Pizza | Italian Market |
| Prohibition Taproom | Pub | Poplar |
| SouthHouse | Pub | South Philly |
| Jay's Steak and Hoagie Joint | Sandwiches | Langhorne |
| Middle Child | Sandwiches | Washington Square West/Fishtown |
| High Street | Sandwiches/Pastries | Washington Square West |
| DanDan | Sichuan/Taiwanese | Rittenhouse |
| Kalaya | Thai | Fishtown |
| Primary Plant Based | Vegan | Fishtown |
| Puyero | Venezuelan | Queen Village |
- Doro Bet has incredible GF fried chicken
- Panorama has incredible homemade GF pasta, most other places use store bought GF pasta
- Puyero is just absolutely delicious
- Okie Dokie donuts are phenomenal and deliver
- Middle Child sandwiches are the best and the GF bread is a Focaccia
- Mission Taqueria has great tacos and margaritas
- Jules Pizza is the best but it is out in the suburbs unfortunately
2023.06.10 18:26 AdditionalPair8 Cartoon Idea: X-Men: The Next Mutation
Note: This is gonna be a very long post, so brace yourselves
As most of you know by now, X-Men '97 will be coming out on Disney Plus this Fall.
This series will be a pretty big deal since it'll mark the X-Men's very first major animated appearance in over a decade!
During the 2010s, due to the rising success of the Marvel Cinematic Universe, 20th Century Fox still owning the FILM rights to the X-Men, and Ike "Fuck You" Perlmutter, Marvel basically resorted to pretending the X-Men didn't even exist, removing them from potential media they would be allowed to appear in.
Cartoons, merchandising, and perhaps one of the most egregious, video games.....
Chances are most of you are familiar with Marvel vs. Capcom: Infinite.
And you're probably all aware that one of the biggest criticisms towards that game was the vetoing of any X-Men representation.
And not helping was the frankly idiotic responses given to this valid criticism.
Which, let's be real, the people from Capcom only really said half of that shit since they were most likely being held at gunpoint by an executive from Marvel, who in turn was being held at gunpoint by Perlmutter.
And after the game's release, people from Capcom came out to say how much the production of the game was absolute nightmare due to Marvel's bullshit.
And with that being said, the license for MvC will mostly likely never be renewed since after all the bullshit Marvel pulled on them, Capcom wouldn't want to work with them ever again.
But enough about that....
While it is great that the X-Men are finally returning to television after spending nearly 15 years without a major animated appearance, it is a little disappointing that it's being done through a revival of an already existing series.
I'm guessing that Marvel decided to have the X-Men's grand return to animation to be something a little familiar, so when it's time for a new X-Men cartoon that's a bit different from before, it wouldn't be too overwhelming for some.
But when that time does come, I have what I think would a cool idea for a new X-Men cartoon.
The cartoon would be titled X-Men: The Next Mutation!
Essentially the main draw of this series would be turning the characters of the Marvel Universe into powerful badasses right out of a shonen manga/anime.
And I figured the X-Men would be the perfect characters to explore that concept with.
Becuase the reason they're more powerful in this universe, apart from years of rigorous physical training, are secondary mutations.
Yeah in the universe of this series, secondary mutations are much more common among mutants, often happening early adulthood.
Tertiary mutations also exist, but they're pretty rare.
As for the X-Men themselves, the series would feature the biggest roster by far.
It would consist of Cyclops, Psyche (Jean Grey), Wolverine, Storm, Colossus, Shadowcat, Lockheed, Rogue, Iceman, Nightcrawler, Angel, Thunderbird, Beast, Sunfire, Banshee, Dazzler, The Diamond Queen (Emma Frost), Gambit and Psylocke.
There are some notable changes with some of the members of the team.
-Angel will be female by the name of Wren Worthington
-Nightcrawler's last name will be changed from Wagner to Darkhölme, since in this universe, he's the biological son of Mystique and Destiny
(Bonus points for anyone who gets that reference)
-Nightcrawler and Rogue grew up together
-Sunfire and Psylocke's back-stories are much different than they were in the original comics. Sunfire, who while still Japanese, spent most of his life in San Fransokyo, being raised by the Silver Samurai, who in this universe is his uncle rather than his cousin. Sunfire was also a member of the Hand until he met the X-Men and saw the error of his ways. As for Psylocke, she was a Japanese baby raised by the Braddocks, who in this universe are a family of English adventurers. You're probably wondering why I changed their back-stories. In the case of Sunfire, I felt like his original backstory is pretty problematic, at least in my opinion. I mean, it literally had to do with the bombing of Hiroshima. And when you take into consideration that he was created back in the late 1960s, you can't help but go a bit "yeesh" about it. As for Psylocke, I'm sure most of you are familiar with the whole body-swapping mess. Yeah....that shit has been banished to the Shadow Realm. I felt like this new backstory I came with would be a perfect way to still keep the appearance that most people associate with, while still keeping her British.
-I'm still debating on this one, but either Colossus or Gambit will be gender-swapped as well. Essentially, it would be either a female Colossus and a still-male Gambit, or a still-male Colossus and a female Gambit. The reason for that I'm about to touch on next.
In terms of romantic relationships.....
-Cyclops, Jean and Wolverine will be in a polyamorous marriage
-Storm will be dating Thor
-Colossus and Shadowcat will be dating (with a much shorter age difference this time)
-Rogue and Gambit will be sort-of dating
-Iceman will be dating The Human Torch
-Nightcrawler and Angel will be dating
-Beast and Emma will be dating.
-Dazzler and Sunfire will be dating
-Banshee will have a thing for Moria MacTaggert
So yeah, if you considered that possible gender-swap between Gambit and Colossus....that would put Shadowcat and Rogue in LGBT relationships.
Though in all honesty, I'm leaning more towards keeping Gambit male and making Colossus a female.
Since I think it would be nice for Shadowcat to finally be in a relationship with another female for once.
Although I haven't seen too many people mention it, it is pretty strange how despite being canonically bisexual, Shadowcat is still being restricted to male love interests.
I've heard something that it has to do with writer bias, since a lot of them had crushes on her back in the day.
It does seem like they're now gonna change it since she does seem to have thing for Rasputin IV.
Apart from the team themselves, what about their standing in the world?
Well, this might be a bit controversial, but in this universe, the X-Men have finally achieved their original dream of a world where mutants and humans peacefully co-exist with each other.
Since in this universe, the human race are actually decently intelligent.
Along with that, they've come to see the X-Men as what they truly are....heroes, due to the various good deeds they've done over the years.
And because of the deeds of the X-Men, humans have began to change their perspective on mutants overall.
And while there are still humans who hate the mutants, they're more of a minority now.
But despite achieving their dream, the X-Men still persist as heroes....simply because they want to.
Yeah, the heroes in this universe will be actual heroes, people who go out of their way to help those in need.
But you're probably wondering, if the X-Men finally achieved their dream, what kind of conflict would they deal with now?
Well, simple.....
This series would have 4 seasons, with each one focusing on a different antagonist.
The first season will be the Return Season.
The main antagonists will be the Brotherhood of Mutant Supremacy (consisting of Mystique, Destiny, Blob, Pyro, Avalanche, Unus the Untouchable, Lorelei, Sabertooth, Mastermind, Lady Mastermind, and Toad), who had spent the last 2-3 years in the Raft.
That was until they were broken out by Bolivar Trask and General Kincaid (from X-Men Legends).
Their reason for doing so was simple.....revenge.
With the rising acceptance of mutants as whole, plus their frankly heinous actions against them and humanity, Trask and Bolivar have become societal rejects.
They've been stripped of both of their positions by the government, and are now treated like shit by everyone.
This has made the duo's hatred for the X-Men even greater than ever before.
As a result of this, they decided to break the Brotherhood out of the Raft so they could work together to take out the X-Men once and for all and conquer the world.
Although both sides do hate each other, they do form an alliance due to their shared hatred for the X-Men.
Basically the classic the enemy of my enemy is my friend.
And since the Brotherhood have also gone through secondary mutations of their own, they're even more of a challenge for the X-Men than ever before.
The season will also feature other villains like The Juggernaut, Black Tom Cassidy, The Silver Samurai, Sauron, Arcade, and the entire island of Genosha.
Luckily, the X-Men will have plenty of allies to back them up.
These include Charles Xavier, obviously.
Duncan Mathews, who in this universe, is a pretty nice guy and a longtime ally of the X-Men, essentially being like their April O'Neil.
Moira MacTaggert, who's still a human.
Ka-Zar, Shanna the She-Devil, and Zabu.
Nick Fury, who has formed a partnership with the X-Men to promote human-mutant relations.
James Produstar and Theresa Cassidy, Thunderbird's little brother and Banshee's daughter, who are both little kids.
The Avengers and The Fantastic Four, who are actually close allies with the X-Men rather than rivals who try to rip each other's throats whenever they cross paths.
Plus, they have members of their respective teams dating each other.
And I know some of you are gonna ask this, but Quicksilver, Scarlet Witch, and Franklin Richards will all still be mutants.
X-Factor (which consists of Forge, Havok, Polaris, Strong Guy, Chat, Longshot, and Multiple Man).
A bit more reluctantly, Deadpool.
And a new ally in the form of Nathaniel Essex, a world famous geneticist who has partnered up with S.H.I.E.L.D. and Xavier to study and learn more about the X-Men and the other superheroes of New York.
But undoubtedly the big bad of this season would be the one and only, Magneto!
There would be a storyline throughout this season involving the Brotherhood searching for the whereabouts of their leader, along with the pieces of his iconic helmet.
And given how powerful Magneto already is in the comics, imagine what he would be like this in new universe where everyone is a badass right out of Shonen Jump!
Also, I wanted to add this real quick, but Quicksilver and Scarlet Witch will be Magneto's grandchildren rather than his children.
I mean, the guy is over 90 years old....
Season 2 would be the Clone Season.
I'm pretty sure you all knew this already, but Dr. Essex would essentially be the main villain of this season, taking on his iconic identity as Mister Sinister.
Sinister's master plan is to create the perfect army of hybrids, made from the DNA of the X-Men and the other superheroes, which is the reason why he worked with them last season.
And he plans to use this army to conquer the world.
So this season will basically be like The Clone Saga, except not shit.
Apart from Sinister, this season would introduce to Marauders and various notable clones of the X-Men, like Madelyn Pryor, Archangel, and even X-23.
Season 3 will be the Apocalypse Season.
As you would expect, the main villain of this season will be none other than Apocalypse, with Mister Sinister serving as the secondary villain.
Apocalypse's plan is to use his Four Horsemen to conquer the world, rid of those he sees weak, and enslave those he deems strong.
This season will not only see the X-Men working with all of their allies, but also their enemies, in order to defeat Apocalypse.
This season would also see a redemption arc for Magneto and the Brotherhood, with them finally going from villains to heroes.
The season would also introduce us to X-Force, a team of time-traveling mutants consisting of Cable, Domino, Shatterstar, Rictor, Boom Boom, Theresa and James (now going by their Siryn and Warpath aliases), Rachel Summers, and the future children of the other X-Men.
Also, since Cyclops won't be hooking up with Madelyne, Cable will be the son of him, Jean and Wolverine, with Rachel being his biological younger sister.
I should mention this that this series would have a lot of influence from shonen manga/anime, with one of the biggest being Dragon Ball Z.
And this season would have one of the strongest influences from DBZ.
Just like Trunks, X-Force will be portrayed as a band of heroes from a dystopian future (that being the Age of Apocalypse), who traveled back in time to stop the source of said future.
The fourth and final season will be the Multiverse/Space Season
This season will be heavy emphasis on the extraterrestrial side of the X-Men.
This season will see the introduction of The Broods, The Flock, The Sh'iar, The Starjammers, Mojo, and Vulcan.
This season will also but a heavy emphasis on the Multiverse.
As this universe's X-Men will meet various iterations of themselves from across the ages.
From the 616, to the Ultimate, to the animated, to the movies.
The main MVP would have to be none other than Jean herself.
A huge plotline for this season is that would become the new host of the Phoenix Force, and is now learning how to use it, with the help of 616 iteration, who has learned to master the entity.
And this Jean really needs to if she's gonna be able to take on the season's main villain...herself.
Well technically it's a variant of her who also became the host of the Phoenix, but was overwhelmed by its power and became evil.
And thus, Dark Phoenix was born...
Many of the multiversal variants of the X-Men and the Marvel characters already knew of Dark Phoenix before the events of the series.....and I'll be honest, they're all scared shitless of her.
And why won't they?
She's an all-powerful being with enough strength to destroy entire planets!
And although they've tried their best to avoid her, they can't anymore when she forces the entire multiverse to fight in a tournament that will decide their fate, and against villainous variants of themselves, all of whom are powerful in their own right.
From Maestro, to The Maker.
And final event is a battle against her and the multiverse's strongest fighters.
If the heroes win, Dark Phoenix will leave the multiverse alone forever.
But if they lose, she'll basically destroy everything and everyone.
Before we wrap up, I do want to talk about the art-style and the animation.
The art-style would be done by Boris Grovez, aka ArtFrenzyBoris, who has a really cool art-style I vibe with.
Not only does it look like something right out of a comic book, but also this sense of expressiveness and a cartoony nature not typically found in most comic books or superhero cartoons.
If you want to check it out, here's a link to his DeviantArt page below.
https://www.deviantart.com/artfrenzyboris/gallery
As for the animation, it would be done by Flying Bark Studios.
The animation studio behind Rise of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Monkie Kid, and Moon Girl and Devil Dinosaur.
When considering that this series would be heavily inspired by shonen manga/anime, you can't tell me that this wouldn't be the best studio to possibly animated this show.
I mean, have you seen their animation?!
Voice Cast:
.Scott Porter as Cyclops
.Jennifer Hale as Psyche
.Steve Blum as Wolverine
.Danielle Nicolet as Storm
.Chris Cox as Colossus (Male)
.Vanessa Marshall as Colossus (Female)
.Danielle Judovits as Shadowcat
.Dee Bradley Baker as Lockheed
.Melissa Disney as Rogue
.Zachary Gordon as Iceman
.Liam O'Brien as Nightcrawler
.Grey Griffin as Angel and Psylocke
.Johnathan Joss as Thunderbird
.Fred Tatasciore as Beast
.Steven Yuen as Sunfire
.Quinton Flynn as Banshee
.Cristina Valenzuela as Dazzler
.Kari Wahlgren as The Diamond Queen and Gambit (female)
.Troy Baker as Gambit (Male)
.Patrick Stewart as Charles Xavier
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As most of you know by now, X-Men '97 will be coming out on Disney Plus this Fall.
This series will be a pretty big deal since it'll mark the X-Men's very first major animated appearance in over a decade!
During the 2010s, due to the rising success of the Marvel Cinematic Universe, 20th Century Fox still owning the FILM rights to the X-Men, and Ike "Fuck You" Perlmutter, Marvel basically resorted to pretending the X-Men didn't even exist, removing them from potential media they would be allowed to appear in.
Cartoons, merchandising, and perhaps one of the most egregious, video games.....
Chances are most of you are familiar with Marvel vs. Capcom: Infinite.
And you're probably all aware that one of the biggest criticisms towards that game was the vetoing of any X-Men representation.
And not helping was the frankly idiotic responses given to this valid criticism.
Which, let's be real, the people from Capcom only really said half of that shit since they were most likely being held at gunpoint by an executive from Marvel, who in turn was being held at gunpoint by Perlmutter.
And after the game's release, people from Capcom came out to say how much the production of the game was absolute nightmare due to Marvel's bullshit.
And with that being said, the license for MvC will mostly likely never be renewed since after all the bullshit Marvel pulled on them, Capcom wouldn't want to work with them ever again.
But enough about that....
While it is great that the X-Men are finally returning to television after spending nearly 15 years without a major animated appearance, it is a little disappointing that it's being done through a revival of an already existing series.
I'm guessing that Marvel decided to have the X-Men's grand return to animation to be something a little familiar, so when it's time for a new X-Men cartoon that's a bit different from before, it wouldn't be too overwhelming for some.
But when that time does come, I have what I think would a cool idea for a new X-Men cartoon.
The cartoon would be titled X-Men: The Next Mutation!
Essentially the main draw of this series would be turning the characters of the Marvel Universe into powerful badasses right out of a shonen manga/anime.
And I figured the X-Men would be the perfect characters to explore that concept with.
Becuase the reason they're more powerful in this universe, apart from years of rigorous physical training, are secondary mutations.
Yeah in the universe of this series, secondary mutations are much more common among mutants, often happening early adulthood.
Tertiary mutations also exist, but they're pretty rare.
As for the X-Men themselves, the series would feature the biggest roster by far.
It would consist of Cyclops, Psyche (Jean Grey), Wolverine, Storm, Colossus, Shadowcat, Lockheed, Rogue, Iceman, Nightcrawler, Angel, Thunderbird, Beast, Sunfire, Banshee, Dazzler, The Diamond Queen (Emma Frost), Gambit and Psylocke.
There are some notable changes with some of the members of the team.
-Angel will be female by the name of Wren Worthington
-Nightcrawler's last name will be changed from Wagner to Darkhölme, since in this universe, he's the biological son of Mystique and Destiny
(Bonus points for anyone who gets that reference)
-Nightcrawler and Rogue grew up together
-Sunfire and Psylocke's back-stories are much different than they were in the original comics. Sunfire, who while still Japanese, spent most of his life in San Fransokyo, being raised by the Silver Samurai, who in this universe is his uncle rather than his cousin. Sunfire was also a member of the Hand until he met the X-Men and saw the error of his ways. As for Psylocke, she was a Japanese baby raised by the Braddocks, who in this universe are a family of English adventurers. You're probably wondering why I changed their back-stories. In the case of Sunfire, I felt like his original backstory is pretty problematic, at least in my opinion. I mean, it literally had to do with the bombing of Hiroshima. And when you take into consideration that he was created back in the late 1960s, you can't help but go a bit "yeesh" about it. As for Psylocke, I'm sure most of you are familiar with the whole body-swapping mess. Yeah....that shit has been banished to the Shadow Realm. I felt like this new backstory I came with would be a perfect way to still keep the appearance that most people associate with, while still keeping her British.
-I'm still debating on this one, but either Colossus or Gambit will be gender-swapped as well. Essentially, it would be either a female Colossus and a still-male Gambit, or a still-male Colossus and a female Gambit. The reason for that I'm about to touch on next.
In terms of romantic relationships.....
-Cyclops, Jean and Wolverine will be in a polyamorous marriage
-Storm will be dating Thor
-Colossus and Shadowcat will be dating (with a much shorter age difference this time)
-Rogue and Gambit will be sort-of dating
-Iceman will be dating The Human Torch
-Nightcrawler and Angel will be dating
-Beast and Emma will be dating.
-Dazzler and Sunfire will be dating
-Banshee will have a thing for Moria MacTaggert
So yeah, if you considered that possible gender-swap between Gambit and Colossus....that would put Shadowcat and Rogue in LGBT relationships.
Though in all honesty, I'm leaning more towards keeping Gambit male and making Colossus a female.
Since I think it would be nice for Shadowcat to finally be in a relationship with another female for once.
Although I haven't seen too many people mention it, it is pretty strange how despite being canonically bisexual, Shadowcat is still being restricted to male love interests.
I've heard something that it has to do with writer bias, since a lot of them had crushes on her back in the day.
It does seem like they're now gonna change it since she does seem to have thing for Rasputin IV.
Apart from the team themselves, what about their standing in the world?
Well, this might be a bit controversial, but in this universe, the X-Men have finally achieved their original dream of a world where mutants and humans peacefully co-exist with each other.
Since in this universe, the human race are actually decently intelligent.
Along with that, they've come to see the X-Men as what they truly are....heroes, due to the various good deeds they've done over the years.
And because of the deeds of the X-Men, humans have began to change their perspective on mutants overall.
And while there are still humans who hate the mutants, they're more of a minority now.
But despite achieving their dream, the X-Men still persist as heroes....simply because they want to.
Yeah, the heroes in this universe will be actual heroes, people who go out of their way to help those in need.
But you're probably wondering, if the X-Men finally achieved their dream, what kind of conflict would they deal with now?
Well, simple.....
This series would have 4 seasons, with each one focusing on a different antagonist.
The first season will be the Return Season.
The main antagonists will be the Brotherhood of Mutant Supremacy (consisting of Mystique, Destiny, Blob, Pyro, Avalanche, Unus the Untouchable, Lorelei, Sabertooth, Mastermind, Lady Mastermind, and Toad), who had spent the last 2-3 years in the Raft.
That was until they were broken out by Bolivar Trask and General Kincaid (from X-Men Legends).
Their reason for doing so was simple.....revenge.
With the rising acceptance of mutants as whole, plus their frankly heinous actions against them and humanity, Trask and Bolivar have become societal rejects.
They've been stripped of both of their positions by the government, and are now treated like shit by everyone.
This has made the duo's hatred for the X-Men even greater than ever before.
As a result of this, they decided to break the Brotherhood out of the Raft so they could work together to take out the X-Men once and for all and conquer the world.
Although both sides do hate each other, they do form an alliance due to their shared hatred for the X-Men.
Basically the classic the enemy of my enemy is my friend.
And since the Brotherhood have also gone through secondary mutations of their own, they're even more of a challenge for the X-Men than ever before.
The season will also feature other villains like The Juggernaut, Black Tom Cassidy, The Silver Samurai, Sauron, Arcade, and the entire island of Genosha.
Luckily, the X-Men will have plenty of allies to back them up.
These include Charles Xavier, obviously.
Duncan Mathews, who in this universe, is a pretty nice guy and a longtime ally of the X-Men, essentially being like their April O'Neil.
Moira MacTaggert, who's still a human.
Ka-Zar, Shanna the She-Devil, and Zabu.
Nick Fury, who has formed a partnership with the X-Men to promote human-mutant relations.
James Produstar and Theresa Cassidy, Thunderbird's little brother and Banshee's daughter, who are both little kids.
The Avengers and The Fantastic Four, who are actually close allies with the X-Men rather than rivals who try to rip each other's throats whenever they cross paths.
Plus, they have members of their respective teams dating each other.
And I know some of you are gonna ask this, but Quicksilver, Scarlet Witch, and Franklin Richards will all still be mutants.
X-Factor (which consists of Forge, Havok, Polaris, Strong Guy, Chat, Longshot, and Multiple Man).
A bit more reluctantly, Deadpool.
And a new ally in the form of Nathaniel Essex, a world famous geneticist who has partnered up with S.H.I.E.L.D. and Xavier to study and learn more about the X-Men and the other superheroes of New York.
But undoubtedly the big bad of this season would be the one and only, Magneto!
There would be a storyline throughout this season involving the Brotherhood searching for the whereabouts of their leader, along with the pieces of his iconic helmet.
And given how powerful Magneto already is in the comics, imagine what he would be like this in new universe where everyone is a badass right out of Shonen Jump!
Also, I wanted to add this real quick, but Quicksilver and Scarlet Witch will be Magneto's grandchildren rather than his children.
I mean, the guy is over 90 years old....
Season 2 would be the Clone Season.
I'm pretty sure you all knew this already, but Dr. Essex would essentially be the main villain of this season, taking on his iconic identity as Mister Sinister.
Sinister's master plan is to create the perfect army of hybrids, made from the DNA of the X-Men and the other superheroes, which is the reason why he worked with them last season.
And he plans to use this army to conquer the world.
So this season will basically be like The Clone Saga, except not shit.
Apart from Sinister, this season would introduce to Marauders and various notable clones of the X-Men, like Madelyn Pryor, Archangel, and even X-23.
Season 3 will be the Apocalypse Season.
As you would expect, the main villain of this season will be none other than Apocalypse, with Mister Sinister serving as the secondary villain.
Apocalypse's plan is to use his Four Horsemen to conquer the world, rid of those he sees weak, and enslave those he deems strong.
This season will not only see the X-Men working with all of their allies, but also their enemies, in order to defeat Apocalypse.
This season would also see a redemption arc for Magneto and the Brotherhood, with them finally going from villains to heroes.
The season would also introduce us to X-Force, a team of time-traveling mutants consisting of Cable, Domino, Shatterstar, Rictor, Boom Boom, Theresa and James (now going by their Siryn and Warpath aliases), Rachel Summers, and the future children of the other X-Men.
Also, since Cyclops won't be hooking up with Madelyne, Cable will be the son of him, Jean and Wolverine, with Rachel being his biological younger sister.
I should mention this that this series would have a lot of influence from shonen manga/anime, with one of the biggest being Dragon Ball Z.
And this season would have one of the strongest influences from DBZ.
Just like Trunks, X-Force will be portrayed as a band of heroes from a dystopian future (that being the Age of Apocalypse), who traveled back in time to stop the source of said future.
The fourth and final season will be the Multiverse/Space Season
This season will be heavy emphasis on the extraterrestrial side of the X-Men.
This season will see the introduction of The Broods, The Flock, The Sh'iar, The Starjammers, Mojo, and Vulcan.
This season will also but a heavy emphasis on the Multiverse.
As this universe's X-Men will meet various iterations of themselves from across the ages.
From the 616, to the Ultimate, to the animated, to the movies.
The main MVP would have to be none other than Jean herself.
A huge plotline for this season is that would become the new host of the Phoenix Force, and is now learning how to use it, with the help of 616 iteration, who has learned to master the entity.
And this Jean really needs to if she's gonna be able to take on the season's main villain...herself.
Well technically it's a variant of her who also became the host of the Phoenix, but was overwhelmed by its power and became evil.
And thus, Dark Phoenix was born...
Many of the multiversal variants of the X-Men and the Marvel characters already knew of Dark Phoenix before the events of the series.....and I'll be honest, they're all scared shitless of her.
And why won't they?
She's an all-powerful being with enough strength to destroy entire planets!
And although they've tried their best to avoid her, they can't anymore when she forces the entire multiverse to fight in a tournament that will decide their fate, and against villainous variants of themselves, all of whom are powerful in their own right.
From Maestro, to The Maker.
And final event is a battle against her and the multiverse's strongest fighters.
If the heroes win, Dark Phoenix will leave the multiverse alone forever.
But if they lose, she'll basically destroy everything and everyone.
Before we wrap up, I do want to talk about the art-style and the animation.
The art-style would be done by Boris Grovez, aka ArtFrenzyBoris, who has a really cool art-style I vibe with.
Not only does it look like something right out of a comic book, but also this sense of expressiveness and a cartoony nature not typically found in most comic books or superhero cartoons.
If you want to check it out, here's a link to his DeviantArt page below.
https://www.deviantart.com/artfrenzyboris/gallery
As for the animation, it would be done by Flying Bark Studios.
The animation studio behind Rise of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Monkie Kid, and Moon Girl and Devil Dinosaur.
When considering that this series would be heavily inspired by shonen manga/anime, you can't tell me that this wouldn't be the best studio to possibly animated this show.
I mean, have you seen their animation?!
Voice Cast:
.Scott Porter as Cyclops
.Jennifer Hale as Psyche
.Steve Blum as Wolverine
.Danielle Nicolet as Storm
.Chris Cox as Colossus (Male)
.Vanessa Marshall as Colossus (Female)
.Danielle Judovits as Shadowcat
.Dee Bradley Baker as Lockheed
.Melissa Disney as Rogue
.Zachary Gordon as Iceman
.Liam O'Brien as Nightcrawler
.Grey Griffin as Angel and Psylocke
.Johnathan Joss as Thunderbird
.Fred Tatasciore as Beast
.Steven Yuen as Sunfire
.Quinton Flynn as Banshee
.Cristina Valenzuela as Dazzler
.Kari Wahlgren as The Diamond Queen and Gambit (female)
.Troy Baker as Gambit (Male)
.Patrick Stewart as Charles Xavier
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2023.06.10 18:20 Alone-World1690 It's always a good time to buy a detached SFH
I was thinking about this and due to the probable softening of the real estate market I asked myself this question: which properties are going to be safe and which ones will be the most impacted?
Well first of all condos are going to be the hardest hit by the increasing interest rates as let's be real they form the bulk of investment properties. As opposed to single-family homes, they are usually seen as "stepping-stones" with people buying them to have equity to eventually get something better. If the interest rates increase to the point where it doesn't make sense financially I think there may be a sell-off.
The most uncertain properties at this point are townhouses and semi-detached. It is yet to be seen how they will fare in the case of a big crash. While they are seen as more prestigious and better to raise a family in, they are also more likely to have over-leveraged investors due to their smaller price-points when compared to detached. Also, as Doug Ford loosens building restrictions and if a conservative federal government gets elected we may see a lot more supply of them on the market. Most new communities in the GTA today are uniquely townhouses. That could cause their price to dwindle too.
With all that being said, detached homes are becoming more and more of a rarity all across this country with cities and politicians from coast-to-coast pushing "density" narratives and openly allowing the tear-down and conversion of them to townhouses and semi-detached housing. Meanwhile, the vast majority of people and especially immigrants to this country dream of having their own big house on a big yard like in the United States. As their supply per capita is becoming lesser by the day in this country, I think they would be the most shielded from any real estate market correction. Therefore, it is always a good time to buy a detached SFH.
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Well first of all condos are going to be the hardest hit by the increasing interest rates as let's be real they form the bulk of investment properties. As opposed to single-family homes, they are usually seen as "stepping-stones" with people buying them to have equity to eventually get something better. If the interest rates increase to the point where it doesn't make sense financially I think there may be a sell-off.
The most uncertain properties at this point are townhouses and semi-detached. It is yet to be seen how they will fare in the case of a big crash. While they are seen as more prestigious and better to raise a family in, they are also more likely to have over-leveraged investors due to their smaller price-points when compared to detached. Also, as Doug Ford loosens building restrictions and if a conservative federal government gets elected we may see a lot more supply of them on the market. Most new communities in the GTA today are uniquely townhouses. That could cause their price to dwindle too.
With all that being said, detached homes are becoming more and more of a rarity all across this country with cities and politicians from coast-to-coast pushing "density" narratives and openly allowing the tear-down and conversion of them to townhouses and semi-detached housing. Meanwhile, the vast majority of people and especially immigrants to this country dream of having their own big house on a big yard like in the United States. As their supply per capita is becoming lesser by the day in this country, I think they would be the most shielded from any real estate market correction. Therefore, it is always a good time to buy a detached SFH.
2023.06.10 18:20 GloomyEye8567 I lost my childhood friendship group almost a decade ago, and I have never gotten over it.
TL;DR I lost my childhood friendship group after experiencing a mental health crisis a decade ago and have never fully gotten over it.
Back in 2014 I was a baby-faced 20 year old (F) university student who had been living in London for the past year or so. For lots of people this time in their lives is exciting, fulfilling and fun! However, for me, this time was really tough.
In addition to the stress of moving to a major city without any financial support, studying a tough degree (Biochemistry) and working full time in an arduous service job to support myself, I was also dealing with a plethora of family trauma. This included pretty much every issue you could think of; major illness, death, alcoholism, emotional abuse, illegal activity, estrangement (I could go on), much of these issues had been ongoing for years. In addition, I was quietly dealing with quite a few health concerns (at the time I thought it was due to my lifestyle, however after falling extremely ill a few years later I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease which proved to be the cause). On top of all of this, I was also dealing with the aftermath of a horrible breakup which put even more strain on my mental health.
During this time, my social life was also very busy, I was a massive people pleaser and as a result hadn’t learned how to say “no”. I was known as a bit of a partier and would regularly push myself to the limit to ensure I never let anybody down (a trait I have since successfully worked through). I was even known amongst friends as “the one who never sleeps” because I’d often work through the day and party through the night without rest. In reality, I was struggling with insomnia and was trying to keep busy as not to be alone with my thoughts.
At the time, I was still very close to my childhood friendship group back at home and we would meet up regularly despite us all living in different areas of the country. However, despite being “best friends” with these girls for many years, I never really felt like I could confide in them about the troubles I was experiencing. I told myself it was because I didn’t want to “be a downer” but in hindsight I think knew deep down I couldn’t trust them. In addition, I was always the to go to person for people when they had issues they needed to get off their chest. I suppose I was probably encouraging this to overcompensate for my own poor mental health, but the fact I dedicated so much of my time to helping many of them through their problems and this wasn’t reciprocated to me when I needed it has created a lot of resentment since.
Due to the family issues listed previously, I found going home for visits EXTREMELY stressful, and would often stay up all night worrying about going back. Due to London being expensive there was very little appetite for these friends to visit me, so if we met up it would either be in our home town, or I’d have to travel to them (most of whom still lived pretty close to our home town). I started to harbour some resentment towards them for this reason, especially as I found going home so very stressful, but I obviously didn’t mention this as I was still a chronic people pleaser at this point and didn’t want to cause any trouble!
One of the group was turning 21 in early 2014 and we had all arranged to meet her in Manchester to celebrate. I was in an especially horrible place mentally at the time, but forced myself to go because (you guessed it) I didn’t want to let her down. As Manchester is close to my home town I had also arranged to see my parents the day before which proved to be a traumatic experience (as usual) compounding my poor state of mind.
After arriving in Manchester and meeting up with the girls, they started to bitch and complain about one of our other friends who had decided not to come, this really got to me as it reinforced my belief that if I didn’t make an effort on every occasion, despite my circumstances, I would be outcast from the group. As a result, I felt irritable on top of my underlying poor mental state.
Now this is where I fucked up:
To combat my irritability and poor mental state I decided to pre-drink a HELL OF A LOT of alcohol (a whole bottle of gin to be exact), this was a bad idea. After being out for about an hour or so, one of the girls said something bitchy and I snapped, went into a fit of rage, shouted at everyone (I think I even tried to slap one of them at that point, which is completely out of character and unacceptable under any circumstance). I then became extremely depressive as a result of my outburst. The night ended with me self harming to the point where an ambulance had to be called. With the benefit of hindsight, this event was almost inevitable, my poor mental health was a ticking time bomb that I was running away from rather than addressing. Couple that with a slow realisation that my “best friends” weren’t very good friends after all and add a generous helping of gin then you have a perfect recipe for a mental health crisis.
The next morning I felt worse (both physically and mentally) than I have ever felt in my life. I was in an extremely vulnerable and scary place which I hope to never visit again! Despite the context, I knew that the way I had acted wasn’t acceptable and that I was responsible for my poor actions. I didn’t try to justify anything, I just profusely apologised to all involved both in person and over text. I was met with apparent understanding and was told “we don’t care, we just want you to be okay” a sentiment I sensed may be insincere.
Preceding this, despite years of friendship, the entire friendship group (even those who weren’t in attendance) completely ghosted me. I was removed from all group chats and was never invited to a meet up again. Thankfully, I had a really solid support system back in London who rallied around me and helped me get through, however I couldn’t help but feel abandoned by my oldest friends, in a time where I needed their support the most.
Now it’s almost a decade later, I’m in a fantastic place in my life, I have many amazing supportive friends around me, I’m in my dream job, studying for my second masters degree and I am due to marry the love of my life (who I met on the same year this incident occurred). However, thoughts of this incident still hurt, they still feel painful and I’m not fully over it! I’ve realised after a lot of introspection, that this is likely because I never really dealt with the pain of being abandoned as I was fully focused on taking responsibility for the incident and learning from it, thus never allowing myself to feel angehurt/grief. I still feel triggered when I see them meeting up on social media (I have removed most of them but pictures still arise through mutual friends) and I still feel ashamed that I no longer speak to my closest childhood friends.
I guess I’m posting this as a first step to dealing with those emotions, I’m not really looking for advice but any comments or experiences would be really appreciated!
If you have gotten this far, thank you so much for reading!
Edit: To correct grammar.
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Back in 2014 I was a baby-faced 20 year old (F) university student who had been living in London for the past year or so. For lots of people this time in their lives is exciting, fulfilling and fun! However, for me, this time was really tough.
In addition to the stress of moving to a major city without any financial support, studying a tough degree (Biochemistry) and working full time in an arduous service job to support myself, I was also dealing with a plethora of family trauma. This included pretty much every issue you could think of; major illness, death, alcoholism, emotional abuse, illegal activity, estrangement (I could go on), much of these issues had been ongoing for years. In addition, I was quietly dealing with quite a few health concerns (at the time I thought it was due to my lifestyle, however after falling extremely ill a few years later I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease which proved to be the cause). On top of all of this, I was also dealing with the aftermath of a horrible breakup which put even more strain on my mental health.
During this time, my social life was also very busy, I was a massive people pleaser and as a result hadn’t learned how to say “no”. I was known as a bit of a partier and would regularly push myself to the limit to ensure I never let anybody down (a trait I have since successfully worked through). I was even known amongst friends as “the one who never sleeps” because I’d often work through the day and party through the night without rest. In reality, I was struggling with insomnia and was trying to keep busy as not to be alone with my thoughts.
At the time, I was still very close to my childhood friendship group back at home and we would meet up regularly despite us all living in different areas of the country. However, despite being “best friends” with these girls for many years, I never really felt like I could confide in them about the troubles I was experiencing. I told myself it was because I didn’t want to “be a downer” but in hindsight I think knew deep down I couldn’t trust them. In addition, I was always the to go to person for people when they had issues they needed to get off their chest. I suppose I was probably encouraging this to overcompensate for my own poor mental health, but the fact I dedicated so much of my time to helping many of them through their problems and this wasn’t reciprocated to me when I needed it has created a lot of resentment since.
Due to the family issues listed previously, I found going home for visits EXTREMELY stressful, and would often stay up all night worrying about going back. Due to London being expensive there was very little appetite for these friends to visit me, so if we met up it would either be in our home town, or I’d have to travel to them (most of whom still lived pretty close to our home town). I started to harbour some resentment towards them for this reason, especially as I found going home so very stressful, but I obviously didn’t mention this as I was still a chronic people pleaser at this point and didn’t want to cause any trouble!
One of the group was turning 21 in early 2014 and we had all arranged to meet her in Manchester to celebrate. I was in an especially horrible place mentally at the time, but forced myself to go because (you guessed it) I didn’t want to let her down. As Manchester is close to my home town I had also arranged to see my parents the day before which proved to be a traumatic experience (as usual) compounding my poor state of mind.
After arriving in Manchester and meeting up with the girls, they started to bitch and complain about one of our other friends who had decided not to come, this really got to me as it reinforced my belief that if I didn’t make an effort on every occasion, despite my circumstances, I would be outcast from the group. As a result, I felt irritable on top of my underlying poor mental state.
Now this is where I fucked up:
To combat my irritability and poor mental state I decided to pre-drink a HELL OF A LOT of alcohol (a whole bottle of gin to be exact), this was a bad idea. After being out for about an hour or so, one of the girls said something bitchy and I snapped, went into a fit of rage, shouted at everyone (I think I even tried to slap one of them at that point, which is completely out of character and unacceptable under any circumstance). I then became extremely depressive as a result of my outburst. The night ended with me self harming to the point where an ambulance had to be called. With the benefit of hindsight, this event was almost inevitable, my poor mental health was a ticking time bomb that I was running away from rather than addressing. Couple that with a slow realisation that my “best friends” weren’t very good friends after all and add a generous helping of gin then you have a perfect recipe for a mental health crisis.
The next morning I felt worse (both physically and mentally) than I have ever felt in my life. I was in an extremely vulnerable and scary place which I hope to never visit again! Despite the context, I knew that the way I had acted wasn’t acceptable and that I was responsible for my poor actions. I didn’t try to justify anything, I just profusely apologised to all involved both in person and over text. I was met with apparent understanding and was told “we don’t care, we just want you to be okay” a sentiment I sensed may be insincere.
Preceding this, despite years of friendship, the entire friendship group (even those who weren’t in attendance) completely ghosted me. I was removed from all group chats and was never invited to a meet up again. Thankfully, I had a really solid support system back in London who rallied around me and helped me get through, however I couldn’t help but feel abandoned by my oldest friends, in a time where I needed their support the most.
Now it’s almost a decade later, I’m in a fantastic place in my life, I have many amazing supportive friends around me, I’m in my dream job, studying for my second masters degree and I am due to marry the love of my life (who I met on the same year this incident occurred). However, thoughts of this incident still hurt, they still feel painful and I’m not fully over it! I’ve realised after a lot of introspection, that this is likely because I never really dealt with the pain of being abandoned as I was fully focused on taking responsibility for the incident and learning from it, thus never allowing myself to feel angehurt/grief. I still feel triggered when I see them meeting up on social media (I have removed most of them but pictures still arise through mutual friends) and I still feel ashamed that I no longer speak to my closest childhood friends.
I guess I’m posting this as a first step to dealing with those emotions, I’m not really looking for advice but any comments or experiences would be really appreciated!
If you have gotten this far, thank you so much for reading!
Edit: To correct grammar.
2023.06.10 18:19 GloomyEye8567 I lost my childhood friendship group almost a decade ago, and I have never gotten over it.
TL;DR I lost my childhood friendship group after experiencing a mental health crisis a decade ago and have never fully gotten over it.
Back in 2014 I was a baby-faced 20 year old (F) university student who had been living in London for the past year or so. For lots of people this time in their lives is exciting, fulfilling and fun! However, for me, this time was really tough.
In addition to the stress of moving to a major city without any financial support, studying a tough degree (Biochemistry) and working full time in an arduous service job to support myself, I was also dealing with a plethora of family trauma. This included pretty much every issue you could think of; major illness, death, alcoholism, emotional abuse, illegal activity, estrangement (I could go on), much of these issues had been ongoing for years. In addition, I was quietly dealing with quite a few health concerns (at the time I thought it was due to my lifestyle, however after falling extremely ill a few years later I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease which proved to be the cause). On top of all of this, I was also dealing with the aftermath of a horrible breakup which put even more strain on my mental health.
During this time, my social life was also very busy, I was a massive people pleaser and as a result hadn’t learned how to say “no”. I was known as a bit of a partier and would regularly push myself to the limit to ensure I never let anybody down (a trait I have since successfully worked through). I was even known amongst friends as “the one who never sleeps” because I’d often work through the day and party through the night without rest. In reality, I was struggling with insomnia and was trying to keep busy as not to be alone with my thoughts.
At the time, I was still very close to my childhood friendship group back at home and we would meet up regularly despite us all living in different areas of the country. However, despite being “best friends” with these girls for many years, I never really felt like I could confide in them about the troubles I was experiencing. I told myself it was because I didn’t want to “be a downer” but in hindsight I think knew deep down I couldn’t trust them. In addition, I was always the to go to person for people when they had issues they needed to get off their chest. I suppose I was probably encouraging this to overcompensate for my own poor mental health, but the fact I dedicated so much of my time to helping many of them through their problems and this wasn’t reciprocated to me when I needed it has created a lot of resentment since.
Due to the family issues listed previously, I found going home for visits EXTREMELY stressful, and would often stay up all night worrying about going back. Due to London being expensive there was very little appetite for these friends to visit me, so if we met up it would either be in our home town, or I’d have to travel to them (most of whom still lived pretty close to our home town). I started to harbour some resentment towards them for this reason, especially as I found going home so very stressful, but I obviously didn’t mention this as I was still a chronic people pleaser at this point and didn’t want to cause any trouble!
One of the group was turning 21 in early 2014 and we had all arranged to meet her in Manchester to celebrate. I was in an especially horrible place mentally at the time, but forced myself to go because (you guessed it) I didn’t want to let her down. As Manchester is close to my home town I had also arranged to see my parents the day before which proved to be a traumatic experience (as usual) compounding my poor state of mind.
After arriving in Manchester and meeting up with the girls, they started to bitch and complain about one of our other friends who had decided not to come, this really got to me as it reinforced my belief that if I didn’t make an effort on every occasion, despite my circumstances, I would be outcast from the group. As a result, I felt irritable on top of my underlying poor mental state.
Now this is where I fucked up:
To combat my irritability and poor mental state I decided to pre-drink a HELL OF A LOT of alcohol (a whole bottle of gin to be exact), this was a bad idea. After being out for about an hour or so, one of the girls said something bitchy and I snapped, went into a fit of rage, shouted at everyone (I think I even tried to slap one of them at that point, which is completely out of character and unacceptable under any circumstance). I then became extremely depressive as a result of my outburst. The night ended with me self harming to the point where an ambulance had to be called. With the benefit of hindsight, this event was almost inevitable, my poor mental health was a ticking time bomb that I was running away from rather than addressing. Couple that with a slow realisation that my “best friends” weren’t very good friends after all and add a generous helping of gin then you have a perfect recipe for a mental health crisis.
The next morning I felt worse (both physically and mentally) than I have ever felt in my life. I was in an extremely vulnerable and scary place which I hope to never visit again! Despite the context, I knew that the way I had acted wasn’t acceptable and that I was responsible for my poor actions. I didn’t try to justify anything, I just profusely apologised to all involved both in person and over text. I was met with apparent understanding and was told “we don’t care, we just want you to be okay” a sentiment I sensed may be insincere.
Preceding this, despite years of friendship, the entire friendship group (even those who weren’t in attendance) completely ghosted me. I was removed from all group chats and was never invited to a meet up again. Thankfully, I had a really solid support system back in London who rallied around me and helped me get through, however I couldn’t help but feel abandoned by my oldest friends, in a time where I needed their support the most.
Now it’s almost a decade later, I’m in a fantastic place in my life, I have many amazing supportive friends around me, I’m in my dream job, studying for my second masters degree and I am due to marry the love of my life (who I met on the same year this incident occurred). However, thoughts of this incident still hurt, they still feel painful and I’m not fully over it! I’ve realised after a lot of introspection, that this is likely because I never really dealt with the pain of being abandoned as I was fully focused on taking responsibility for the incident and learning from it, thus never allowing myself to feel angehurt/grief. I still feel triggered when I see them meeting up on social media (I have removed most of them but pictures still arise through mutual friends) and I still feel ashamed that I no longer speak to my closest childhood friends.
I guess I’m posting this as a first step to dealing with those emotions, I’m not really looking for advice but any comments or experiences would be really appreciated!
If you have gotten this far, thank you so much for reading!
Edit: To correct grammar.
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Back in 2014 I was a baby-faced 20 year old (F) university student who had been living in London for the past year or so. For lots of people this time in their lives is exciting, fulfilling and fun! However, for me, this time was really tough.
In addition to the stress of moving to a major city without any financial support, studying a tough degree (Biochemistry) and working full time in an arduous service job to support myself, I was also dealing with a plethora of family trauma. This included pretty much every issue you could think of; major illness, death, alcoholism, emotional abuse, illegal activity, estrangement (I could go on), much of these issues had been ongoing for years. In addition, I was quietly dealing with quite a few health concerns (at the time I thought it was due to my lifestyle, however after falling extremely ill a few years later I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease which proved to be the cause). On top of all of this, I was also dealing with the aftermath of a horrible breakup which put even more strain on my mental health.
During this time, my social life was also very busy, I was a massive people pleaser and as a result hadn’t learned how to say “no”. I was known as a bit of a partier and would regularly push myself to the limit to ensure I never let anybody down (a trait I have since successfully worked through). I was even known amongst friends as “the one who never sleeps” because I’d often work through the day and party through the night without rest. In reality, I was struggling with insomnia and was trying to keep busy as not to be alone with my thoughts.
At the time, I was still very close to my childhood friendship group back at home and we would meet up regularly despite us all living in different areas of the country. However, despite being “best friends” with these girls for many years, I never really felt like I could confide in them about the troubles I was experiencing. I told myself it was because I didn’t want to “be a downer” but in hindsight I think knew deep down I couldn’t trust them. In addition, I was always the to go to person for people when they had issues they needed to get off their chest. I suppose I was probably encouraging this to overcompensate for my own poor mental health, but the fact I dedicated so much of my time to helping many of them through their problems and this wasn’t reciprocated to me when I needed it has created a lot of resentment since.
Due to the family issues listed previously, I found going home for visits EXTREMELY stressful, and would often stay up all night worrying about going back. Due to London being expensive there was very little appetite for these friends to visit me, so if we met up it would either be in our home town, or I’d have to travel to them (most of whom still lived pretty close to our home town). I started to harbour some resentment towards them for this reason, especially as I found going home so very stressful, but I obviously didn’t mention this as I was still a chronic people pleaser at this point and didn’t want to cause any trouble!
One of the group was turning 21 in early 2014 and we had all arranged to meet her in Manchester to celebrate. I was in an especially horrible place mentally at the time, but forced myself to go because (you guessed it) I didn’t want to let her down. As Manchester is close to my home town I had also arranged to see my parents the day before which proved to be a traumatic experience (as usual) compounding my poor state of mind.
After arriving in Manchester and meeting up with the girls, they started to bitch and complain about one of our other friends who had decided not to come, this really got to me as it reinforced my belief that if I didn’t make an effort on every occasion, despite my circumstances, I would be outcast from the group. As a result, I felt irritable on top of my underlying poor mental state.
Now this is where I fucked up:
To combat my irritability and poor mental state I decided to pre-drink a HELL OF A LOT of alcohol (a whole bottle of gin to be exact), this was a bad idea. After being out for about an hour or so, one of the girls said something bitchy and I snapped, went into a fit of rage, shouted at everyone (I think I even tried to slap one of them at that point, which is completely out of character and unacceptable under any circumstance). I then became extremely depressive as a result of my outburst. The night ended with me self harming to the point where an ambulance had to be called. With the benefit of hindsight, this event was almost inevitable, my poor mental health was a ticking time bomb that I was running away from rather than addressing. Couple that with a slow realisation that my “best friends” weren’t very good friends after all and add a generous helping of gin then you have a perfect recipe for a mental health crisis.
The next morning I felt worse (both physically and mentally) than I have ever felt in my life. I was in an extremely vulnerable and scary place which I hope to never visit again! Despite the context, I knew that the way I had acted wasn’t acceptable and that I was responsible for my poor actions. I didn’t try to justify anything, I just profusely apologised to all involved both in person and over text. I was met with apparent understanding and was told “we don’t care, we just want you to be okay” a sentiment I sensed may be insincere.
Preceding this, despite years of friendship, the entire friendship group (even those who weren’t in attendance) completely ghosted me. I was removed from all group chats and was never invited to a meet up again. Thankfully, I had a really solid support system back in London who rallied around me and helped me get through, however I couldn’t help but feel abandoned by my oldest friends, in a time where I needed their support the most.
Now it’s almost a decade later, I’m in a fantastic place in my life, I have many amazing supportive friends around me, I’m in my dream job, studying for my second masters degree and I am due to marry the love of my life (who I met on the same year this incident occurred). However, thoughts of this incident still hurt, they still feel painful and I’m not fully over it! I’ve realised after a lot of introspection, that this is likely because I never really dealt with the pain of being abandoned as I was fully focused on taking responsibility for the incident and learning from it, thus never allowing myself to feel angehurt/grief. I still feel triggered when I see them meeting up on social media (I have removed most of them but pictures still arise through mutual friends) and I still feel ashamed that I no longer speak to my closest childhood friends.
I guess I’m posting this as a first step to dealing with those emotions, I’m not really looking for advice but any comments or experiences would be really appreciated!
If you have gotten this far, thank you so much for reading!
Edit: To correct grammar.
2023.06.10 18:18 volossaveroniki Titanic ticket
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2023.06.10 18:18 GloomyEye8567 I lost my childhood friendship group almost a decade ago, and I have never gotten over it.
TL;DR I lost my childhood friendship group after experiencing a mental health crisis a decade ago and have never fully gotten over it.
Back in 2014 I was a baby-faced 20 year old (F) university student who had been living in London for the past year or so. For lots of people this time in their lives is exciting, fulfilling and fun! However, for me, this time was really tough.
In addition to the stress of moving to a major city without any financial support, studying a tough degree (Biochemistry) and working full time in an arduous service job to support myself, I was also dealing with a plethora of family trauma. This included pretty much every issue you could think of; major illness, death, alcoholism, emotional abuse, illegal activity, estrangement (I could go on), much of these issues had been ongoing for years. In addition, I was quietly dealing with quite a few health concerns (at the time I thought it was due to my lifestyle, however after falling extremely ill a few years later I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease which proved to be the cause). On top of all of this, I was also dealing with the aftermath of a horrible breakup which put even more strain on my mental health.
During this time, my social life was also very busy, I was a massive people pleaser and as a result hadn’t learned how to say “no”. I was known as a bit of a partier and would regularly push myself to the limit to ensure I never let anybody down (a trait I have since successfully worked through). I was even known amongst friends as “the one who never sleeps” because I’d often work through the day and party through the night without rest. In reality, I was struggling with insomnia and was trying to keep busy as not to be alone with my thoughts.
At the time, I was still very close to my childhood friendship group back at home and we would meet up regularly despite us all living in different areas of the country. However, despite being “best friends” with these girls for many years, I never really felt like I could confide in them about the troubles I was experiencing. I told myself it was because I didn’t want to “be a downer” but in hindsight I think knew deep down I couldn’t trust them. In addition, I was always the to go to person for people when they had issues they needed to get off their chest. I suppose I was probably encouraging this to overcompensate for my own poor mental health, but the fact I dedicated so much of my time to helping many of them through their problems and this wasn’t reciprocated to me when I needed it has created a lot of resentment since.
Due to the family issues listed previously, I found going home for visits EXTREMELY stressful, and would often stay up all night worrying about going back. Due to London being expensive there was very little appetite for these friends to visit me, so if we met up it would either be in our home town, or I’d have to travel to them (most of whom still lived pretty close to our home town). I started to harbour some resentment towards them for this reason, especially as I found going home so very stressful, but I obviously didn’t mention this as I was still a chronic people pleaser at this point and didn’t want to cause any trouble!
One of the group was turning 21 in early 2014 and we had all arranged to meet her in Manchester to celebrate. I was in an especially horrible place mentally at the time, but forced myself to go because (you guessed it) I didn’t want to let her down. As Manchester is close to my home town I had also arranged to see my parents the day before which proved to be a traumatic experience (as usual) compounding my poor state of mind.
After arriving in Manchester and meeting up with the girls, they started to bitch and complain about one of our other friends who had decided not to come, this really got to me as it reinforced my belief that if I didn’t make an effort on every occasion, despite my circumstances, I would be outcast from the group. As a result, I felt irritable on top of my underlying poor mental state.
Now this is where I fucked up:
To combat my irritability and poor mental state I decided to pre-drink a HELL OF A LOT of alcohol (a whole bottle of gin to be exact), this was a bad idea. After being out for about an hour or so, one of the girls said something bitchy and I snapped, went into a fit of rage, shouted at everyone (I think I even tried to slap one of them at that point, which is completely out of character and unacceptable under any circumstance). I then became extremely depressive as a result of my outburst. The night ended with me self harming to the point where an ambulance had to be called. With the benefit of hindsight, this event was almost inevitable, my poor mental health was a ticking time bomb that I was running away from rather than addressing. Couple that with a slow realisation that my “best friends” weren’t very good friends after all and add a generous helping of gin then you have a perfect recipe for a mental health crisis.
The next morning I felt worse (both physically and mentally) than I have ever felt in my life. I was in an extremely vulnerable and scary place which I hope to never visit again! Despite the context, I knew that the way I had acted wasn’t acceptable and that I was responsible for my poor actions. I didn’t try to justify anything, I just profusely apologised to all involved both in person and over text. I was met with apparent understanding and was told “we don’t care, we just want you to be okay” a sentiment I sensed may be insincere.
Preceding this, despite years of friendship, the entire friendship group (even those who weren’t in attendance) completely ghosted me. I was removed from all group chats and was never invited to a meet up again. Thankfully, I had a really solid support system back in London who rallied around me and helped me get through, however I couldn’t help but feel abandoned by my oldest friends, in a time where I needed their support the most.
Now it’s almost a decade later, I’m in a fantastic place in my life, I have many amazing supportive friends around me, I’m in my dream job, studying for my second masters degree and I am due to marry the love of my life (who I met on the same year this incident occurred). However, thoughts of this incident still hurt, they still feel painful and I’m not fully over it! I’ve realised after a lot of introspection, that this is likely because I never really dealt with the pain of being abandoned as I was fully focused on taking responsibility for the incident and learning from it, thus never allowing myself to feel angehurt/grief. I still feel triggered when I see them meeting up on social media (I have removed most of them but pictures still arise through mutual friends) and I still feel ashamed that I no longer speak to my closest childhood friends.
I guess I’m posting this as a first step to dealing with those emotions, I’m not really looking for advice but any comments or experiences would be really appreciated!
If you have gotten this far, thank you so much for reading!
Edit: To correct grammar.
submitted by GloomyEye8567 to FriendshipAdvice [link] [comments]
Back in 2014 I was a baby-faced 20 year old (F) university student who had been living in London for the past year or so. For lots of people this time in their lives is exciting, fulfilling and fun! However, for me, this time was really tough.
In addition to the stress of moving to a major city without any financial support, studying a tough degree (Biochemistry) and working full time in an arduous service job to support myself, I was also dealing with a plethora of family trauma. This included pretty much every issue you could think of; major illness, death, alcoholism, emotional abuse, illegal activity, estrangement (I could go on), much of these issues had been ongoing for years. In addition, I was quietly dealing with quite a few health concerns (at the time I thought it was due to my lifestyle, however after falling extremely ill a few years later I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease which proved to be the cause). On top of all of this, I was also dealing with the aftermath of a horrible breakup which put even more strain on my mental health.
During this time, my social life was also very busy, I was a massive people pleaser and as a result hadn’t learned how to say “no”. I was known as a bit of a partier and would regularly push myself to the limit to ensure I never let anybody down (a trait I have since successfully worked through). I was even known amongst friends as “the one who never sleeps” because I’d often work through the day and party through the night without rest. In reality, I was struggling with insomnia and was trying to keep busy as not to be alone with my thoughts.
At the time, I was still very close to my childhood friendship group back at home and we would meet up regularly despite us all living in different areas of the country. However, despite being “best friends” with these girls for many years, I never really felt like I could confide in them about the troubles I was experiencing. I told myself it was because I didn’t want to “be a downer” but in hindsight I think knew deep down I couldn’t trust them. In addition, I was always the to go to person for people when they had issues they needed to get off their chest. I suppose I was probably encouraging this to overcompensate for my own poor mental health, but the fact I dedicated so much of my time to helping many of them through their problems and this wasn’t reciprocated to me when I needed it has created a lot of resentment since.
Due to the family issues listed previously, I found going home for visits EXTREMELY stressful, and would often stay up all night worrying about going back. Due to London being expensive there was very little appetite for these friends to visit me, so if we met up it would either be in our home town, or I’d have to travel to them (most of whom still lived pretty close to our home town). I started to harbour some resentment towards them for this reason, especially as I found going home so very stressful, but I obviously didn’t mention this as I was still a chronic people pleaser at this point and didn’t want to cause any trouble!
One of the group was turning 21 in early 2014 and we had all arranged to meet her in Manchester to celebrate. I was in an especially horrible place mentally at the time, but forced myself to go because (you guessed it) I didn’t want to let her down. As Manchester is close to my home town I had also arranged to see my parents the day before which proved to be a traumatic experience (as usual) compounding my poor state of mind.
After arriving in Manchester and meeting up with the girls, they started to bitch and complain about one of our other friends who had decided not to come, this really got to me as it reinforced my belief that if I didn’t make an effort on every occasion, despite my circumstances, I would be outcast from the group. As a result, I felt irritable on top of my underlying poor mental state.
Now this is where I fucked up:
To combat my irritability and poor mental state I decided to pre-drink a HELL OF A LOT of alcohol (a whole bottle of gin to be exact), this was a bad idea. After being out for about an hour or so, one of the girls said something bitchy and I snapped, went into a fit of rage, shouted at everyone (I think I even tried to slap one of them at that point, which is completely out of character and unacceptable under any circumstance). I then became extremely depressive as a result of my outburst. The night ended with me self harming to the point where an ambulance had to be called. With the benefit of hindsight, this event was almost inevitable, my poor mental health was a ticking time bomb that I was running away from rather than addressing. Couple that with a slow realisation that my “best friends” weren’t very good friends after all and add a generous helping of gin then you have a perfect recipe for a mental health crisis.
The next morning I felt worse (both physically and mentally) than I have ever felt in my life. I was in an extremely vulnerable and scary place which I hope to never visit again! Despite the context, I knew that the way I had acted wasn’t acceptable and that I was responsible for my poor actions. I didn’t try to justify anything, I just profusely apologised to all involved both in person and over text. I was met with apparent understanding and was told “we don’t care, we just want you to be okay” a sentiment I sensed may be insincere.
Preceding this, despite years of friendship, the entire friendship group (even those who weren’t in attendance) completely ghosted me. I was removed from all group chats and was never invited to a meet up again. Thankfully, I had a really solid support system back in London who rallied around me and helped me get through, however I couldn’t help but feel abandoned by my oldest friends, in a time where I needed their support the most.
Now it’s almost a decade later, I’m in a fantastic place in my life, I have many amazing supportive friends around me, I’m in my dream job, studying for my second masters degree and I am due to marry the love of my life (who I met on the same year this incident occurred). However, thoughts of this incident still hurt, they still feel painful and I’m not fully over it! I’ve realised after a lot of introspection, that this is likely because I never really dealt with the pain of being abandoned as I was fully focused on taking responsibility for the incident and learning from it, thus never allowing myself to feel angehurt/grief. I still feel triggered when I see them meeting up on social media (I have removed most of them but pictures still arise through mutual friends) and I still feel ashamed that I no longer speak to my closest childhood friends.
I guess I’m posting this as a first step to dealing with those emotions, I’m not really looking for advice but any comments or experiences would be really appreciated!
If you have gotten this far, thank you so much for reading!
Edit: To correct grammar.
2023.06.10 18:17 EfficientChoice4415 Some vintage girl scouts item I thrifted
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2023.06.10 18:17 ABoiledIcepack I’ve got a case for any mod detectives out there
I’m replaying fallout 4 on ps5 and man have I forgot how dope this game could be. I love modding my games though so when I saw that mods tab I got excited and started browsing
This is my mod list: SimpleGreen - SimpleSeasons Better Graphics and Weather Howitzer Co Simple Attack Reactions Simple Combat Grabs Simple Death Reactions Simple Dodges - Sidestep Dodge Water Redux Ballistic Realism Overhaul 3 Liberty Reborn: A Minuteman Overhaul Power Armor Overhaul Interiors Redux
Issue: I can’t move on with the Nick Valentine quest when you first get to Diamond City. Ellie Perkins just keeps searching the box and talking to herself while my character goes “ma'am?” Each time I try to initiate a convo
Now I thought Interior Redux would conflict with Better Graphics since it’s a lighting mod but despite disabling the mod my issue persists.
What do you think it could be?
Meanwhile I’m gonna peep my load order again, play from an earlier save, then do the disable and check method when I’m back at Valentines but this issue has lingered for some
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This is my mod list: SimpleGreen - SimpleSeasons Better Graphics and Weather Howitzer Co Simple Attack Reactions Simple Combat Grabs Simple Death Reactions Simple Dodges - Sidestep Dodge Water Redux Ballistic Realism Overhaul 3 Liberty Reborn: A Minuteman Overhaul Power Armor Overhaul Interiors Redux
Issue: I can’t move on with the Nick Valentine quest when you first get to Diamond City. Ellie Perkins just keeps searching the box and talking to herself while my character goes “ma'am?” Each time I try to initiate a convo
Now I thought Interior Redux would conflict with Better Graphics since it’s a lighting mod but despite disabling the mod my issue persists.
What do you think it could be?
Meanwhile I’m gonna peep my load order again, play from an earlier save, then do the disable and check method when I’m back at Valentines but this issue has lingered for some
2023.06.10 18:15 Toxic_Vampy Vichar Vayakt Karo
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2023.06.10 18:13 JoseLunaArts Cid Campeador was a mercenary. His bio could be easily turned into a mechwarrior biography.
After digging into literature, I found that the story of the legendary knight Cid Campeador, sounds to me like the story of a mercenary Mechwarrior, instead of the usual legend that shows him as a religious warrior. It does not take too much to export this story to Battletech universe, and indeed I plan to add a version of him to my Mechwarrior Destiny game at some point.
The following is a summary of "Historia Roderici" an old Spanish text that may likely be inaccessible to English speaking readers, not only because of language barrier, but also because of the ancient Spanish words that are difficult to understand even for modern Spanish speakers. You will discover that Cid Campeador was not a religious hero, but a merc.
I believe it could be used as source material to inspire a novel.
Sorry about the long read, but it still shorter than the original "Historia Roderici".
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Rodrigo "Ruy" Díaz de Vivar is also known as Cid Campeador, and some people believe he was a religious hero but others see him as a mercenary. The oldest biography is "Historia Roderici" in 1190 when the Castillan warrior had passed away 80 years ago. This biography was made popular via minstrels, and it incorporated many fictional episodes that composed "Cantar del Mio Cid" around the year 1200. For example, there is no evidence that Rodrigo had 2 swords called Tisona and Colada, and a horse called Babieca. He had 2 daughters but they were not named doña Sol and doña Elvira.
Spain was invaded in the year 711 from the south and only a small strip was left at the north where Christian kings would seek a safe haven. The invaders ruling lasted for 800 years but these years also were full of internal disputes, just like in the Inner Sphere.
The war in Spain was always portrayed as a holy war, like a Jihad. This was the time where the term "pariah" was born. The non Christian rulers paid tribute called pariah to Christian kings in exchange for protection. And that was the historical context of eternal war.
Rodrigo was born in the small town of Vivar, near Burgos. His father was a low rank noble, but his mother was from the elite of nobles, daughter of count of Oviedo. The last name Diaz indicated he was son of Diego. When he was 10, his father died, and he was sent to the court of Fernando I de León, to complete his education with the sons of the king. One of the sons, Sancho turned Rodrigo into his page and became close friends. He receives high education and learned to fight. He knew how to read and write, something very uncommon.
When Rodrigo was 15 he went with don Sancho to Zaragoza, a territory which was under the protection of Fernando I de León in exchange for pariah. Ramiro I de Aragón uncle of Fernando I de León wanted the land under protection, and this is how Sancho and his "mesnadas" (forces under command of a lord) went to help. Ramiro I not only was defeated, but also died.
When Fernando I (ruler of Galicia, León and Castilla) died, he distributed his kingdom among his 5 sons instead of having a linear succession, because Alfonso, his second son, was his favorite. Sancho ruled Castilla and had the right to collect the pariah of Zaragoza. Sancho did not like the distribution of land, as he felt he should have been the heir of the whole kingdom. He entered a conflict with his siblings. Rodrigo ended up being in charge of the army of Sancho. In his first one on one match defeated the Alferez of Navarra kingdom, Jimeno Arcés. This is where he earned the title of "campeador", which means he is a master of the battlefield.
After his mother died, Sancho started war against Alfonso. Rodrigo skill surfaced among all other warriors. Sancho won the battle, but Alfonoso escaped and did not surrender as agreed. Instead, Alfonso agreed to allow Sancho to conquer Galicia ruled by his younger brother García. García was defeated and was and outcast who escaped to the taifa of Sevilla. But that did not end the war with Alfonso. In the new battle, Rodrigo skill shined again. And Alfonso was defeated once again. Alfonso was an outcast too, and he went to the taifa of Toledo. The reunification war ended. But it would last a few months.
Zamora was ruled by his sister Urraca. Many nobles gathered there and they did not embrace Sanho as the king. Urraca supported them, and supported Alfonso. Sancho sieged Zamora for months, but it did cost Sancho's life at the hands of a Zamoran warrior, and not even Rodrigo could stop that. The killer pretended to defecte from Urraca city and earned Sancho's trust. The defector Bellido Dolfos was going to show him a weak spot in the walls of Zamora, and when Sanch went to the loo, the defector took Sancho's spear and killed him. Alfonso became king. García attempted to recover his kingdom but ended in prison where he died. Alfonso married Rodrigo with doña Jimena, relative of Alfonso and apparently Rodrigo was deeply in love with her.
Rodrigo was sent to collect Paria To Sevilla, and García Ordoñez, close friend of alfonso was sent to Granada. Granada ruler asked Ordoñez to attack Sevilla and that Rodrigo had to fight García Ordoñez and made him prisoner and set him free later. García Ordoñez accused Rodrigo of stealing a portion of the pariah of Sevilla, which are believed to be the gift of Sevilla ruler to Rodrigo for defending his land.
Alfonso went to Taifa of Toledo, and Rodrigo was sick at home. There was an attack on a castle and Rodrigo reacted without asking for permission, chased the attackers who entered Toledo territory and Rodrigo took a huge loot, Alfonso was so upset because that destroyed Alfonso's plans to own Toledo without a fight. García Ordoñez presented this to Alfonso as an attempt to make people from Toledo to kill Alfonso. So Rodrigo became an outcast, and he was exiled and had to make a living. Along the road, many men joined him. He went to Zaragoza to offer his services. Now Zaragoza should not have to pay pariah to different kingdoms for protection.
This contradicts the jihadist nature of Rodrigo as a religious warrior. After the ruler of Zaragoza died, his 2 sons also fought. Rodrigo stood in the side of Zaragoza, and the opponent sought help among the kings in the north. The enemy forces outnumbered Rodrigo's but he defeated them in the battle of Almenar.
An uncle of the ruler of Zaragoza, who was prisoner of Alfonso, earned the trust of the alcalde who controlled the prison, so the alcalde passed the message to Alfonso. The uncle offered him the castle of Zaragoza in exchange for paying the pariah to Alfonso. So Alfonso marched towards Zaragoza. But Alfonso this time was not ahead of the forces. He sent scouts who were killed. It seems that the uncle died while the expedition was on its way to Zaragoza, so the alcalde had the idea of becoming an ally of Zaragoza and tried to kill king Alfonso.
Later Alfonso met Rodrigo and Rodrigo told that he had no part in that betrayal, and Alfonso and Rodrigo went back to normal relations without hard feelings.
Alfonso managed to conquer Toledo and that meant a raise in the pariah for other taifas. But religious fundamentalist fanatics from northern Africa were asked to help and their fanatism made them fearsome. Alfonso had Zaragoza under siege, and Rodrigo did not want to fight Alfonso. But news came from the new invaders and the siege stopped. Then the battle of Sagrajas came, where Alfonso suffered a defeat. Alfonso had to escape to save his life. Rodrigo went to Toledo to offer his services to Alfonso.
Alfonso commissioned Rodrigo to take care of the invaders and conquer lands, and to collect the pariah from Zaragoza, which had Rodrigo working as a merc for 6 years.
But good relations did not last. During a campaign Rodrigo was supposed to reinforce Alfonso's forces, but Rodrigo did not arrive. Rodrigo was exiled for second time after García Ordoñez made the king feel betrayed. Alfonso took his property and made his family prisoner. Rodrigo begged and his family was set free. And he became a warlord in Valencia and fought against both sides.
Rodrigo suffered an attack and he took revenge against García Ordoñez and led an expedition to do exactly that and looted along his way. Alfonso gave away these lands and no one wanted to fight Rodrigo. Now the only enemies of Rodrigo were the invaders in the south.
submitted by JoseLunaArts to OfficialBattleTech [link] [comments]
The following is a summary of "Historia Roderici" an old Spanish text that may likely be inaccessible to English speaking readers, not only because of language barrier, but also because of the ancient Spanish words that are difficult to understand even for modern Spanish speakers. You will discover that Cid Campeador was not a religious hero, but a merc.
I believe it could be used as source material to inspire a novel.
Sorry about the long read, but it still shorter than the original "Historia Roderici".
------------------------------------------------
Rodrigo "Ruy" Díaz de Vivar is also known as Cid Campeador, and some people believe he was a religious hero but others see him as a mercenary. The oldest biography is "Historia Roderici" in 1190 when the Castillan warrior had passed away 80 years ago. This biography was made popular via minstrels, and it incorporated many fictional episodes that composed "Cantar del Mio Cid" around the year 1200. For example, there is no evidence that Rodrigo had 2 swords called Tisona and Colada, and a horse called Babieca. He had 2 daughters but they were not named doña Sol and doña Elvira.
Spain was invaded in the year 711 from the south and only a small strip was left at the north where Christian kings would seek a safe haven. The invaders ruling lasted for 800 years but these years also were full of internal disputes, just like in the Inner Sphere.
The war in Spain was always portrayed as a holy war, like a Jihad. This was the time where the term "pariah" was born. The non Christian rulers paid tribute called pariah to Christian kings in exchange for protection. And that was the historical context of eternal war.
Rodrigo was born in the small town of Vivar, near Burgos. His father was a low rank noble, but his mother was from the elite of nobles, daughter of count of Oviedo. The last name Diaz indicated he was son of Diego. When he was 10, his father died, and he was sent to the court of Fernando I de León, to complete his education with the sons of the king. One of the sons, Sancho turned Rodrigo into his page and became close friends. He receives high education and learned to fight. He knew how to read and write, something very uncommon.
When Rodrigo was 15 he went with don Sancho to Zaragoza, a territory which was under the protection of Fernando I de León in exchange for pariah. Ramiro I de Aragón uncle of Fernando I de León wanted the land under protection, and this is how Sancho and his "mesnadas" (forces under command of a lord) went to help. Ramiro I not only was defeated, but also died.
When Fernando I (ruler of Galicia, León and Castilla) died, he distributed his kingdom among his 5 sons instead of having a linear succession, because Alfonso, his second son, was his favorite. Sancho ruled Castilla and had the right to collect the pariah of Zaragoza. Sancho did not like the distribution of land, as he felt he should have been the heir of the whole kingdom. He entered a conflict with his siblings. Rodrigo ended up being in charge of the army of Sancho. In his first one on one match defeated the Alferez of Navarra kingdom, Jimeno Arcés. This is where he earned the title of "campeador", which means he is a master of the battlefield.
After his mother died, Sancho started war against Alfonso. Rodrigo skill surfaced among all other warriors. Sancho won the battle, but Alfonoso escaped and did not surrender as agreed. Instead, Alfonso agreed to allow Sancho to conquer Galicia ruled by his younger brother García. García was defeated and was and outcast who escaped to the taifa of Sevilla. But that did not end the war with Alfonso. In the new battle, Rodrigo skill shined again. And Alfonso was defeated once again. Alfonso was an outcast too, and he went to the taifa of Toledo. The reunification war ended. But it would last a few months.
Zamora was ruled by his sister Urraca. Many nobles gathered there and they did not embrace Sanho as the king. Urraca supported them, and supported Alfonso. Sancho sieged Zamora for months, but it did cost Sancho's life at the hands of a Zamoran warrior, and not even Rodrigo could stop that. The killer pretended to defecte from Urraca city and earned Sancho's trust. The defector Bellido Dolfos was going to show him a weak spot in the walls of Zamora, and when Sanch went to the loo, the defector took Sancho's spear and killed him. Alfonso became king. García attempted to recover his kingdom but ended in prison where he died. Alfonso married Rodrigo with doña Jimena, relative of Alfonso and apparently Rodrigo was deeply in love with her.
Rodrigo was sent to collect Paria To Sevilla, and García Ordoñez, close friend of alfonso was sent to Granada. Granada ruler asked Ordoñez to attack Sevilla and that Rodrigo had to fight García Ordoñez and made him prisoner and set him free later. García Ordoñez accused Rodrigo of stealing a portion of the pariah of Sevilla, which are believed to be the gift of Sevilla ruler to Rodrigo for defending his land.
Alfonso went to Taifa of Toledo, and Rodrigo was sick at home. There was an attack on a castle and Rodrigo reacted without asking for permission, chased the attackers who entered Toledo territory and Rodrigo took a huge loot, Alfonso was so upset because that destroyed Alfonso's plans to own Toledo without a fight. García Ordoñez presented this to Alfonso as an attempt to make people from Toledo to kill Alfonso. So Rodrigo became an outcast, and he was exiled and had to make a living. Along the road, many men joined him. He went to Zaragoza to offer his services. Now Zaragoza should not have to pay pariah to different kingdoms for protection.
This contradicts the jihadist nature of Rodrigo as a religious warrior. After the ruler of Zaragoza died, his 2 sons also fought. Rodrigo stood in the side of Zaragoza, and the opponent sought help among the kings in the north. The enemy forces outnumbered Rodrigo's but he defeated them in the battle of Almenar.
An uncle of the ruler of Zaragoza, who was prisoner of Alfonso, earned the trust of the alcalde who controlled the prison, so the alcalde passed the message to Alfonso. The uncle offered him the castle of Zaragoza in exchange for paying the pariah to Alfonso. So Alfonso marched towards Zaragoza. But Alfonso this time was not ahead of the forces. He sent scouts who were killed. It seems that the uncle died while the expedition was on its way to Zaragoza, so the alcalde had the idea of becoming an ally of Zaragoza and tried to kill king Alfonso.
Later Alfonso met Rodrigo and Rodrigo told that he had no part in that betrayal, and Alfonso and Rodrigo went back to normal relations without hard feelings.
Alfonso managed to conquer Toledo and that meant a raise in the pariah for other taifas. But religious fundamentalist fanatics from northern Africa were asked to help and their fanatism made them fearsome. Alfonso had Zaragoza under siege, and Rodrigo did not want to fight Alfonso. But news came from the new invaders and the siege stopped. Then the battle of Sagrajas came, where Alfonso suffered a defeat. Alfonso had to escape to save his life. Rodrigo went to Toledo to offer his services to Alfonso.
Alfonso commissioned Rodrigo to take care of the invaders and conquer lands, and to collect the pariah from Zaragoza, which had Rodrigo working as a merc for 6 years.
But good relations did not last. During a campaign Rodrigo was supposed to reinforce Alfonso's forces, but Rodrigo did not arrive. Rodrigo was exiled for second time after García Ordoñez made the king feel betrayed. Alfonso took his property and made his family prisoner. Rodrigo begged and his family was set free. And he became a warlord in Valencia and fought against both sides.
Rodrigo suffered an attack and he took revenge against García Ordoñez and led an expedition to do exactly that and looted along his way. Alfonso gave away these lands and no one wanted to fight Rodrigo. Now the only enemies of Rodrigo were the invaders in the south.
2023.06.10 18:08 mvnston197 Issues with my Panera
(throw away account)
So, I have been working part-time at Panera since early April. I have a Mon-Fri- office job and just do Panera 3 shifts per week. Here are some things bothering me and I am looking for feedback/opinions:
- There are several older workers who have been there for years. They are very rude and condescending. They grudgingly train you when told to do so, by management. Each one has their own way of doing things. In fact, everyone has their own way of doing things and so no matter how well you perform a task, someone will tell you that you are doing it wrong.
-Communication is horrible. Management does not answer texts and no one answers the phone in the store. Your schedule can change abruptly, and no one communicates that, you just have to constantly log into pantry and look to see what the latest schedule changes are.
-I was told the pay was $15/hourly but then found out that the $15 is dependent on customer tips and that actually to expect a wage that is more like $12-$14 and hour with tips. No tips? It is only $12/hourly. I don't like being dependent on the generosity of strangers who are already paying for their meals without full-service. I don't like the idea of customers subsidizing my wages and Panera using that as an excuse to pay a lower hourly rate.
-I was told there are no medically excused absences and doctor notes do NOT excuse you. Even if you are in the hospital, you must ask a nurse for access to a phone and start making calls to co-workers to see who, if anyone, will cover you. Of course, no phone numbers are ever supplied to you and if you were to call a manager to get numbers, no one would answer.
-Because of the old-timers on the line, making sandwiches and salads, the turn around to get food out is FAST. Despite this, my managers will lie and lie and say they get non-stop complaints about how slow service is. It is younger, new people on register and barista, but they are pretty fast too. I know management is lying when they say they get constant slow service complaints. Why lie about that?
Is this all normal for a Panera?
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So, I have been working part-time at Panera since early April. I have a Mon-Fri- office job and just do Panera 3 shifts per week. Here are some things bothering me and I am looking for feedback/opinions:
- There are several older workers who have been there for years. They are very rude and condescending. They grudgingly train you when told to do so, by management. Each one has their own way of doing things. In fact, everyone has their own way of doing things and so no matter how well you perform a task, someone will tell you that you are doing it wrong.
-Communication is horrible. Management does not answer texts and no one answers the phone in the store. Your schedule can change abruptly, and no one communicates that, you just have to constantly log into pantry and look to see what the latest schedule changes are.
-I was told the pay was $15/hourly but then found out that the $15 is dependent on customer tips and that actually to expect a wage that is more like $12-$14 and hour with tips. No tips? It is only $12/hourly. I don't like being dependent on the generosity of strangers who are already paying for their meals without full-service. I don't like the idea of customers subsidizing my wages and Panera using that as an excuse to pay a lower hourly rate.
-I was told there are no medically excused absences and doctor notes do NOT excuse you. Even if you are in the hospital, you must ask a nurse for access to a phone and start making calls to co-workers to see who, if anyone, will cover you. Of course, no phone numbers are ever supplied to you and if you were to call a manager to get numbers, no one would answer.
-Because of the old-timers on the line, making sandwiches and salads, the turn around to get food out is FAST. Despite this, my managers will lie and lie and say they get non-stop complaints about how slow service is. It is younger, new people on register and barista, but they are pretty fast too. I know management is lying when they say they get constant slow service complaints. Why lie about that?
Is this all normal for a Panera?
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2023.06.10 18:01 ThrowRA_umbrella My (28F) BF(32M) Lied about his Ex being an Addict with AIDS. Should I reach and find out more?!
I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (32M) for 9 years. We went through a rough patch as I got pregnant and he became distant and horrible towards me.
I became suspicious of him cheating on me and in doing so assumed he might have gone back to his ex. In start of our relationship he was indeed still hurt from his last relationship and would talk openly regarding his Ex and how he felt betrayed when he needed her the most. He made mention of how he heard through friends that she dated a guy who laced her with drugs and she became an addict. He also said she had contracted AIDS as a result of her selling her body for drugs. They lived with each other in another city during their relationship and he says she still resides their and roams the streets looking for any possible drug to get high with.
HOWEVER! As I did some digging assuming he had gone back to her because I had become doubtful of him and sincerely think he showed traits of a narcissist I did some digging and found out she is in fact NOT a drug addict, NOT living in another city(she’s in our current city) and she never relocated because of university scholarship. She is though - 12 years older, had two kids and was previously in a relationship with the father of her kids before with my EX. Meaning she was 21 and she was 33 when they met with two kids.
Currently I do not care to find out if he was cheating BUT I would rather find out as to WHY he lied to this extent ?! Especially regarding the AIDS did he do this to throw me off the scent of him and her having an affair?!
She’s currently in her 40’s and had kids. I don’t have direct contact with her but I was able to find her brothers contact info. Should I reach out? And how would I go about doing so?
Please do not bother saying leave him as I COMPLETELY AGREE it’s not normal to lie about one’s EX to this extent for this many years and with such details!! The reason I ask is Apart of me feels their something significant their I may need to know who I’m truly dealing with in order to protect me and my child.
FYI. He lied about almost everything other than her first name, he lied about her ethnicity, parents, area where she’s from so it was almost impossible to find her before let alone search for someone you were told roams the streets of a city unknown to you. ONLY reason I know who I came across the right person is because I was shown a picture early on in our relationship by someone else and I seen the same photo on this person profile from way back.
Also their pictures of all her family and friend INCLUDING her previous EX but non of my BF ….her family and friends also have pictures of her and her previous Ex but NON of her and my Ex ….
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I became suspicious of him cheating on me and in doing so assumed he might have gone back to his ex. In start of our relationship he was indeed still hurt from his last relationship and would talk openly regarding his Ex and how he felt betrayed when he needed her the most. He made mention of how he heard through friends that she dated a guy who laced her with drugs and she became an addict. He also said she had contracted AIDS as a result of her selling her body for drugs. They lived with each other in another city during their relationship and he says she still resides their and roams the streets looking for any possible drug to get high with.
HOWEVER! As I did some digging assuming he had gone back to her because I had become doubtful of him and sincerely think he showed traits of a narcissist I did some digging and found out she is in fact NOT a drug addict, NOT living in another city(she’s in our current city) and she never relocated because of university scholarship. She is though - 12 years older, had two kids and was previously in a relationship with the father of her kids before with my EX. Meaning she was 21 and she was 33 when they met with two kids.
Currently I do not care to find out if he was cheating BUT I would rather find out as to WHY he lied to this extent ?! Especially regarding the AIDS did he do this to throw me off the scent of him and her having an affair?!
She’s currently in her 40’s and had kids. I don’t have direct contact with her but I was able to find her brothers contact info. Should I reach out? And how would I go about doing so?
Please do not bother saying leave him as I COMPLETELY AGREE it’s not normal to lie about one’s EX to this extent for this many years and with such details!! The reason I ask is Apart of me feels their something significant their I may need to know who I’m truly dealing with in order to protect me and my child.
FYI. He lied about almost everything other than her first name, he lied about her ethnicity, parents, area where she’s from so it was almost impossible to find her before let alone search for someone you were told roams the streets of a city unknown to you. ONLY reason I know who I came across the right person is because I was shown a picture early on in our relationship by someone else and I seen the same photo on this person profile from way back.
Also their pictures of all her family and friend INCLUDING her previous EX but non of my BF ….her family and friends also have pictures of her and her previous Ex but NON of her and my Ex ….
2023.06.10 17:58 Potential-Answer-923 I’m being financially abused.
My husband hasn’t allowed me to leave the house without him for the last few years, but for the last month or so I haven’t been allowed to leave the house at all. He totaled my car, he moved us to the middle of nowhere because he felt I “wasn’t safe” alone in the city. We have very low WiFi out here. Now that I’m not allowed to leave, we have no supplies. I keep telling him the things we need, we are out of toilet paper and running out of food, hell his dog doesn’t have food so I’ve been cooking every last scrap we have for her. He’s gone 22-23 hours a day and when he’s home he just showers, asks if I “need anything” and then leaves. We’ve needed toilet paper for over a week and nothing…. I really don’t like to ask for help but, I need it. I’m trying to get a car so I can escape. Any help is more than appreciated, I just really need out. I’m doing qmee to try and make some money but it’s not really enough to help. My cash app is $goldtruff …. Anything at all is really appreciated. Thank you
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